Showing posts with label Blessings. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Blessings. Show all posts

Friday, May 14, 2021

Today, Friday, May 14, 2021

I am so thankful to reach the unscheduled weekend. I’ve done four days of scheduled meetings and on call time outside the 8 or 9 hour days. I feel sometimes in a tunnel or a factory converter. It’s always a rush and I’m forever apologizing. The systemic problems are massive. A model based on weekly visits and easy follow up is now numerous consults interspersed with months apart visits and emergencies requiring schedule changes. I did a webinar and a sessional focus group. I worry I’m stressed. I look with jealousy on colleagues who seem relaxed and happy. I’m only that way camping. Even these weekends are errands and calls, administration and projects.  I want to wallow in self pity, rage with the sentiments of revenge porn that dominate movies and tv. I want the timelessness of youth, summer vacations, holidays, young love.  I would live my memories. I could easily enjoy a rerun. I’d do it better I hope.  So much angst and pressure.  Relax I might have said but the ‘beatniks are out to make it rich’ really was true. I was forever fighting the status quo to save a life. If only I’d had that hierarchy kiss ass do as I was told thing down. I laughed to hear another doctor say they never had more than 2 borderlines and 2 addicts in their practice at any time because they’re so difficult and demands so much time. Ive made that my practice and have to talk to junior inexperienced arrogant hypocrites as I’ve done my time and duty and didn’t get any medals because they don’t reward us out beyond the wire. I worked with the dangerous insane. What does it mean. It means I’m defending myself from a knife in a hallway hoping to live.  It means I’m one of a group piling on the biggest strongest guy I’ve known trying to kill me and thankful for the head nurse who finally got the needle in the neck.
I’m alone.  I’m meditating and praying. I’m talking to my dog or to God. I’m asking for help and guidance. I want protection. I’m so left with the residual fear of what I saw the corrupt and powerful did. Thank God for Robert Hare’s Psychopaths in Suits. They have nice hair and talk nice and dress like lawyers and have hollow hearts and smile like chameleons.  They are given power because they lack this other thing. This empathy or focus.  They were at Nuremberg. The banality of evil.
My mind slides there.
It’s a sunny day. I’m here with a dog and I’m waiting for a UPS package I think is the new Ipad.  I’ve lots I can do but I’m feeling a motivated.  Lazy was what we used to call that. There’s so much euphemism today it’s hard to understand what people are say. Neutral words. Homogenization. I enjoyed reading.  I could shower and dress. It might be time for another coffee. I have paper work that needs doing. I procrastinate. I’ve calls I could make .  In the four days of work there are constant demands and then this time comes and I just muddle along doing the next right thing.
I had thought to go to the storage locker. Get some of the summer things out and maybe take over some winter stuff. I want to go camping. With Gilbert I’d go int the backwoods and set up a tent and have a cold night and wake to spring frost enjoying the stars and fresh air. So many times I did that in April and Main.  I think about motorcycle camping. With Madigan he’s not ready for a long ride. It would take me a couple of hours to do get up Duffy Lake. I long to do that circle route and camp by the road but I also have this little guy whose still chewing and squirming and causing mayhem.  
I walked him by the river where he’s getting the habit to poop.  It’s a ways away but all week we’ve managed that routine.  I’ve a good morning schedule. My evening falls downs with the cacophony of emotions in the day of work. I used to be better shielded but now it all affects me. Covid.  Thee hot tubs jets used to give me easy. I once cycled after work. Evening classes in theology. Dinners with friends. Meetings. All those ways I had of buffering the despair. Now it’s palpable.  
But today I’m free. I’m relatively happy. The sun makes all the difference. If it gets hot I might be able to lie outside on the deck chair in the sun. Medicinal Vit D. 
I imagine sex would be good.  Some starship holo deck to act out a fantasy without the other. The Chinese sex dolls. How appropriate that the Communists greatest achievement is a wanker device that doesn’t talk back. The leftist is always adolescent intellectual arrogant and knowing what is right. I told a committee that I had been ruined by years of being called to sit in on government designed medical committees in which it was immediately apoparent that the ‘we’d like your input’ meant we want you to rubber stamp our bullshit. We who have half the education and none of your experience want to play administration and impress the people who hired us with our new reshuffling of deckchairs on the titanic.
I carry this negativity and slide into it. I let the resentments take hold of me and suck the joy out of my soul.
I’m watching and my dog just ate the container of food I put down for him two days ago and now he’s chewing on the container.  He’s growing.  He mainly likes to eat what I eat so I eat more steak because that’s good for both of us. I had two salads this week as well. He doesn’t like salad but at least I get some peace eating them. 
He grows smarter each day. I will miss the puppy days but frankly I really liked my older dog. Gilbert, Stuart and Shinto were all such fine companions. But I want a cat. They had the cat as their buddy.  I could have another dog too.  I’d feel less compulsion to be with him all the time.  
Rambling thoughts. Circumstantial and tangential. I’ve two books I’m working on. I ‘should’ be writing. But instead I’m babbling. No focus. I’m not aiming at anything. Today I’m just surviving, recovering from another tough week.  I’m paying bills too. I like that.  I’d like the mortgage paid.  It will be.  I keep plodding forward. Slouching slowly along.
I have noticed the fine wrinkles of sun lines on my face. The sailors sun exposure.
I always think of sex changes. I don’t think of being a woman in work clothes but my anima is the relaxing lounging sensuous half and my warrior animus is weary to the max.  Constant attack by the corrupt cronyism of the psychopaths and sociopaths greedy and evil.  Now I’m too old to fight and accept if rape is inevitable I should lie back and enjoy it. They now call the new ‘obedience’ courses ‘leadership training’.  I’m jaded.
Thank you God for the sun. Thank you for my health today. Thank you for the health of Madigan. Thank you for the health and wellness of family .Watch over the babies and little ones. Take care of the new born and the new mothers. Help our friends in hospital.  Guide me. Show me the way. Thank you for all the blessings you have bestowed on me. Thank you for the gifts of recovery. Thank you for this day. May I continue to help and serve and be guided by your love.  Free my mind of past trauma and memories of old wars and help me to forgive those who hurt me and hurt others.  Thank you Angel Michael. Thank you St. Francis. Thank you St. Thomas. Thank you Jesus. Thank you God of Gods. . Thank you St. Patrick. Thank you all your blessings and the goodness and light that is beyond all understanding. Thank you.











Saturday, June 2, 2018

Pregnant Doctor Delivers

Now that I’m older I have the true luxury of remembering. Those who died young didn’t know this.  As a physician I’ve been blessed to be present at so many pivotal, and one might well say ,sacred times.  I’ve heard countless stories and felt the lives of those who have come to me to share.

This morning, for no reason, these memories seem to rise up like that, I don’t even know of a trigger. Yet this one came to mind and I smiled as I so often do remembering work, the colleagues I knew and the patients who brought us together.

This occurred in a busy teaching hospital.  An obstetrics ward in the wee hours of the morning.  We were all gowned and masked.  We had these little paper booties that covered our shoes.  I remember them most.  The white walls and bloody red sheets. The laundry piling in the corner as all were needed for the work at hand. Later there’d be time but at that moment it wasn’t something we could think about.

“There must have been a power outage over the whole city 9 months ago,” the nurse joked.  

I was at the foot of the bed watching as the cervix dilated and the woman pushed. She’d been screaming for an hour before between contractions when the pain should be least. In addition the anesthetist had just given her a spinal block and begun to administer epidural analgesia.  She should be feeling less pain and be screaming less. If anything her screams had grown louder. 

 I’d asked the nurse about that, as an aside, concerned that something might be amiss.  She nodded to the door where a thoroughly terrified young man was there at the window peering in. He’d come to the little square glass then walk away with an older man comforting him.  I’d seen the older one put his arm around the younger man’s shoulder.

Then the father to be would pull back his shoulders, stand tall and return to peer in the little window.  There were tears in his eyes as he waited helplessly, overwrought I presumed with his inability to do anything but wait.   I’d been glancing out at him now and then while waiting, patiently, for the delivery to progress. 

While the anesthesist was speaking to the patient, the nurse was reviewing the continuous monitoring data strips.  In a low voice , beyond the hearing of the patient, who was either  listening to the anesthetist or screaming her lungs out, the nurse shared. 

‘That’s her husband and father,’ the nurse told me. “They’re old school Portuguese.  Our patient is okay but the more she screams the more the men will care for her and the baby after.  They’ll be helping her now for the whole of the coming year,’ she said smiling.  “It’s a good thing. It’s cultural. She’s going to be okay and she and her baby are going to get a lot of well deserved breakfasts in bed.’ She laughed.

I reflected on the aboriginal patients I’d delivered who’d been a different challenge. Their stoicism and silence had been the means to recognition in the family and  community.  As a doctor I had so much to learn about how people express themselves in sickness and in health.  I had to listen for the different cues that something which might be normal had changed to something that might be more concerning. The older nurses especially in Obstetrics were a wealth of experience and insight. Early days I felt like a hamster on a wheel forever playing catch up. 

I was brought back to the present, not by a fresh crescendo of screams but by the door bursting open and another gurney rolling in as it was pushed quickly  in place  by two sweating hurrying orderlies.   

“We’ve run out of anesthetists.” One said smiling as our anesthetist began to busy himself with the new arrival.  “All the delivery rooms are full and we’re  doubling up.”

I was suddenly very anxious. I was very new to this, only a few deliveries under my belt. My lady was almost fully dilated and here was this new lady well on her way by the rate of the her contractions.  

I think the older anesthetist could see I was concerned if not outright terrrifed.  He said, “Her doctor will be on the way. She was just delivering another lady before I came here.  If all else fails I’ll gladly help at your end.  I’ve been there many times before,” he laughed with the infectious confidence of maturity and experience.  My patient screamed. The other patient screamed.  The nurses eyes twinkled.  It was already a long night.

At that moment a very very large young female doctor burst into the delivery room and went to the side of the newest patient taking her hand, speaking kindly and calmly to her as she looked over the monitor.  

“You didn’t think I’d miss this for anything,” she quipped to her tired but smiling patient. “We’ve been planning this for 9 months.  Now we’re going to see that it was all worth it!:

The doctor was 10 months pregnant herself if she was a day.  Bigger than a house and nearly the size of a whale. She’d moved fast into the room but could hardly bend to speak to the patient.

Going to the foot of her patients bed she peered down and said to the nurse.  “Already crowning”.  To the patient, she said,   “ We’re doing very well.’ Not much longer now especially given how well your last delivery went. “

“Hi Charley’ she said to the Anesthetist. 

“Hi Annie,” he replied, in the tone of old friends.

“Good morning, Doctor, “ she acknowledged me kindly. 

Looking over my shoulder she saw that my patient was just beginning to crown too.. 

“Primip” she quearied,  smiling at my patient.

“Yes,” I replied

“This is Sarah’s second, could be a close match! ‘ she said looking at her patient and returning to where she could view her.  Turning to me she said, “I’m not going to say it’s a race but if this were Vegas they’re be laying close bets as to which child would come out first.‘ 

“Not much longer now , just a few more pushs Ladies.” She said to both.

It was clear that my patient was more relaxed now that this marvellous woman doctor had arrived, even if she was the size of a house and some at Vegas might be including her in the betting . 

The poor patient  was no longer dependent on me a young doctor obviously wet behind the ears. Her screams had changed  now to more like grunts as she pushed responding to the nurse who’d taken a position right beside her head , letting the patient  hold tight to her hand. 

“Here we go”  Dr. Annie said to her patient just as my patent  became fully dilated and the crown  began to appear.   There was no need for an episiotomy. Everything was going smoothly.  I reached forward as the baby came , cradled the  head, then the shoulders and the bum and finally the legs came too.. The nurse was there beside me taking up the baby in clean linen and, wiping off the amniotic fluid, then giving the beautiful little boy baby to the mother.  The placenta delivered. All the bits were there. The new mother was smiling beautifically, pleased with her little boy. I clamped and  cut  the umbilical cord.  

Normally the father would be invited into the room but with the two deliveries happening and the nurse being more aware than me she’d wheeled this bed out into the hall where the father and mother and family and in laws were all waiting to celebrate the new addition to their family. The nurse returned immediately to be there for the second delivery.  I stood by waiting to be of assistance, not knowing what else to do. 

Just as my lady was being wheeled out, with her baby clutched to her chest, the other baby was delivering.  I’d only glanced over to see the mountain of a pregnant woman doctor between the woman’s legs in stirrups.   She’d been leaning awkwardly forward , stretching out and over the mound in front of her  assisting the delivery.  Her arms had the vague resemblance to the Tyrannasaurus Rex but somehow she managed.   Lifting the baby into the air she exclaimed,  “It’s a girl!”  as she handed the baby to his mother.  

I was about to leave then when the lady doctor said, “I’d appreciate if you ‘d not go  just yet. “

“Sarah” , she said, “Congratulations, but if they don’t get me another bed I might have to ask  to share yours.  My waters broke in all the excitement of your delivery! “ She laughed. It was obvious thought she was  just a bit strained. 

The nurse with the strength of a Sumo wrestler and the speed of a jaguar  muscles  another bed into the room with my helping with the guidance.

 Sarah’s husband had joined her and the two were google gaga over the new baby as the two sweaty orderlies were moving the bed out of the room. I don’t even think they noticed us so caught up in love they were.

Dr. Annie was now  standing partially bent over grabbing hold of her thighs and Lamaze breathing as another contraction passed.  The anesthetist,Charley,  was right by her side. 

“I’m going to have to ask you to help me up on the bed,” she said, “ I don’t think I can stand much longer.”  Together with Charley I helped her onto the stool the nurse had brought forward.  Together we hefted her up onto the bed where she collapsed with a huge sigh.  Lying on her back she looked like an Anaconda who’d swallowed and elephant. I couldn’t believe how far along she’d been and delivered two babies that night before she was about to deliver her own. 

‘Could you tell me how far along I am?” she asked between panting.   Charley was establishing an IV.  The nurse  was spreading the jelly for the  ultrasound monitor.  The baby’s heart rate was suddenly visible and looking just  just fine on the screen.

I examined her then. She was fully dilated and just beginning to crown.    I said so.

“I thought as much, “ she said, between breaths and pants. “I called my own doctor before Sarah. If he doesn’t get here,  I’d appreciate you’d stay and assist. I’m rather occupied myself. “ She smiled and I could see Charley’s eyes twinkling as well.  I really was rather awkward and uncertain in those early years. I stayed of course. Never thought I’d do otherwise. 

“Of course,” I said. 

Her beautiful face was flushed and sweating profusely as another contraction took hold.  The nurse had given her her hand and she was squeezing tightly.

At that very moment,  another rather  tall doctor,  burst through the doors. He stopped abruptly beside the patient and said. 

 “I’m glad I’m not late, Annie. I hope you didn’t wait just for me. ” Another contraction came.

“Good to see you, Charley,” he said coming down to the end of the bed beside me. 

“All’s well?” He said, Charley, myself and the nurse nodding. 

I never was more happy to stand aside and let an older doctor take my place.

“I see a head Annie.  Shan’t be long.  Just another push or two if you don’t mind.”  Dr. Annie gave a powerful push and the baby’s face began to slowly appear, the obstetrician carefully guiding.

And sure enough, another baby girl was delivered that morning.  A lovely little girl.  Five fingers and five toes.  

Dr. Annie’s smile was as beautific as the other women’s.  Her husband came in as I began to make myself scarce.  Even as I was leaving, Dr. Annie, turned her beautiful eyes on me, and said,  “Thank you. ” Then her attention was all for her baby and her man.  I looked back over my shoulder at this wonderful family tableau knowing I had been blessed to be there this night. .  

I made my notes at the nursing stations surrounded by the doctors who’d been called in for this most productive night. 

 I will never forget that beautiful lady doctor 9 months pregnant delivering another woman’s baby before giving birth to her own.  That’s a memory I feel  blessed to have. Looking back I’m just thankful to have been there and thankful to have been of some service to all those amazing colleagues and patients and especially Dr. Annie.  Sacred times. 










Sunday, January 1, 2017

St. Patrick's Cathedral New York City, New Year's Day 2017

Laura and I came by St. Patrick’s last week. We’re here today early ready to go to the 5 pm music service, Sunday , 2017 New Year’s Day.  I noted that the protestant churches only had morning services suggesting Catholics are greater party animals so the church accomodates their sleeping in New Year’s Day.The protestants if anything would hold their services early on a New Year’s Day to maximize the guilt.
I figure starting a New Year’s Day at a Catholic Church can only point to better things to come.  As a protestant I figure it took the Catholics 1500 years to get it right and Martin Luther moved the church the next higher level.
I got up early, went out and brought back McDonald’s egg mc muffins for the cute little catholic still sleeping. It wasn’t until 2 pm we actually had ourselves up and out of the hotel.
Now we’re here.  I’m aware of the crowds and short a coffee or two.  Last night’s late night, trying to sleep after the ball moved, like one inch on the tv, compared to the full foot of tv fall in past years.  Really a disappointment as ball falls go but apparently better for the year round tourists who get to see this spectacular ball way up high.
On Facebook, my nephew and family look like they had more fun at Canada's Parliament.  This doesn’t speak well for New York.  We got into bed at 8 pm and didn’t leave our hotel room,  so that might have accounted for our  lack of an exciting party filled New Year’s eve.  We took the sleepy old timer approach instead.  I remember Mom getting me to bang pots and pans outside the house in Fort Garry as a kid.  Most everyone’s lights were off.  So as far as I’m concerned I made it to New York City this year. That’s a big deal. A for effort.
19 years ago and some months I was in Homewood Treatment Centre on New Year’s Eve being treated for Alcohol Abuse and PTSD. I actually turned to the guy beside me as the ball dropped and said “at least we can still drink dom perignon’.  I remember seeing how insane I was in his shocked eyes. I actually thought that the problem had been not sticking to expensive brew. I still didn’t believe that alcohol was the culprit. It changed my perspective, positively and negatively. I liked that after a few glasses of wine women’s breasts got bigger and they all look so much more beautiful.  However, it also increased my feelings of self pity and restlessness, irritability and discontent.  It certainly was more obvious in the negative affects of the partners I was with. Birds of a feather hang together and I was at that time only associated with ‘lower companions’.  It didn’t matter that they lived in high places.  As Graeme Cunningham told me , “some people run with the cheetahs and some people  run with turkeys, sounds like you’ve been running with the turkeys.'
So New York was a sort of sobriety pilgrimage.  A celebration of a life of recovery.  I suspect I could have drunk again without negative consequence. Clearly the research shows that the more years abstinent the less likely one is to have problems however who wants to find out.  I’ve been enjoying recovery too much.
Abstinence is the treatment of choice.  The WHO even says that this is the case.  There is controversy about alcohol abuse and substance abuse and how much is dependence. In AA they talk about ‘real alcoholics’.  In the Harm Reduction work it’s possible to see that many can alter their behaviour who haven’t made that shift from cucumber to pickle.
The magic number in this regard is 5 years. There’s considerable support for the idea that maybe 50 % of those who stop drinking for 5 years may return to drinking without the negative consequences of their previous excess.  Lifetime sobriety is however associated with a wide range of benefits that are hard to measure but obvious to anyone who associates with those who remain abstinent.  Like a life long fast or as St. John would call it the ‘via negative’.
And who wants to ‘control’ their drinking.  The very act of ‘controlling’ your drinking is an indication of alcoholism. I certainly don’t control my asparagus intake.  The joy of alcohol abuse in my ‘binge pattern’ was a letting my hair down after a long stretch of work and sacrifice. What has been called ‘the blue collar reward’.  I’m enjoying recovery and wouldn’t want anything else.
Also as people say in AA , “i know I’ve got another drunk in me but I don’t know if I have another recovery."
It’s certainly not necessary for a good life. I’ve had a life beyond my wildest dreams in recovery and know alcohol and drugs aren’t necessary or even beneficial for the vast majority of people. They are simply associated with so much personal illness, physically and mentally  and so much social and  community distress.  The most successful never abuse drugs or alcohol though they might well have tried them on one or two occasions.  My mother simply said “I don’t like the way it make me feel."
Today I know that feeling because even if I have to take some medication that makes me a bit groggy I don’t like the feeling.  I like being alert and aware and frankly I find this state spiritual , closest to God ,and most capable of seeing God’s working and presence in my life and those of others.
I like that St. Patrick’s is the Irish saint. I love the St. Patrick’s Breastplate Prayer.  Laura and I loved our time in Ireland a couple of years back both of us a bit ‘fay’ because of the celtic blood that runs through us.
We’re going to go to St. Patrick’s early now to give praise and thanksgiving.
Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, Have Mercy on Me, A sinner.

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