Showing posts with label defences. Show all posts
Showing posts with label defences. Show all posts

Sunday, January 1, 2012

Eclectic Psychotherapy - 3) Insight Psychotherapy

I am best described as an "Eclectic Psychotherapist".  I was originally trained in psychoanalytic psychotherapy.  Note my dog, Gilbert,  on the couch!IMG 0182
In psychoanalytic psychotherapy, the therapist is verbally passive to a large degree. The patient is taught "free association".  Free association is a very different process from the directed communication that most people encounter in counselling which is very much  a 'rational' and 'conscious' often 'educational' process.  Free association by contrast is learning to speak about whatever comes to mind continuously without censoring.  The therapist listens to this 'unconscious' processing of whatever is on the mind of the patient.  The patient may recall dreams, events from the the past and anything that may be associated with the primary material being presented.  Eventually as 'patterns of assoctiations' become apparent the therapist shares these 'insights' with the patient and asks for feed back..  Commonly the therapist asks the patient what they think a dream, free association, or focus of thought means.  Therapy is often a quest for meaning and if Jungian an attempt to tie the meanings to the greater world of archetypes. Another more generic term for 'psychoanalytic psychotherapy is 'insight' psychotherapy.  The patient with the help of therapist is gaining 'insight' into otherwise unconscious process and beginning to make sense of otherwise obscure behaviour and thought process.
In psychoanalytic therapy Freud considered the internal processes of the mind to be a kind of family dialogue with the id, the out of control unconscious, the ego, the conscious and the superego the controlling unconscious.  Eric Berne in Transactional Analysis made sense of these divisions by describing Freud's Id as "the child", the Superego as the Parent, and the Ego as the adult.  Later variations on this included the good child and bad chlld, good parent and bad parent. The ego or adult was the individual who managed the demands of the id and superego.  Kernberg was by far my favourite theorist and practitioner of modern psychoanayltic psychoatherapy though it took Masterson to better communicate the developments of the field.  Kohut developed Self psychology which looked beneath the ego to perhaps what might be called the true potential.
The defences were unconscious processes, later called 'coping strategies' in the conscious realm for dealing with unacceptable material. Hence 'denial' might be noted by the therapist who found that the patient couldn't talk about sex and couldn't remember a year in their life when they were in a particular foster home.  Projection might be interpreted when a patient described a 'bad' sibling and how they were so hurtful when in fact in time the patient might gain insight into how they were infact 'projecting' their envy at the next born child.  Acting out was a defence like somatization which served the pateint by keeping them in the dark about some truth that motivated them.  Hence a person might have sex with people indiscriminately when in fact they feared rejection so jumped the gun, acting out some childhood trauma.  Commonly in psychoanalytic psychotherapy the 'patterns' of behaviour noted today derived from dramas that began in the childhood of the patient, in their family. Bradshaw was very good at explaining these early childhood dramas Transference referred to the patients tendency to transfer emotions and roles from past onto the present especially on the therapist.  The therapist in insight psychoanalytic pscyhotherapy 'interpreted' the relationship of therapy in the here and now.
Depth therapy was specifically looking into the darker recesses, the sex and aggression, which Freud said dominated the development.  Interpreting patients 'sexual feelings' towards therapists, or 'lack of sexual feelings' towards therapists (defended against) and feelings of 'hostility" or 'fear' of therapist and working these through without 'acting out' lead to a person being grounded and confident in relationships with clear sense of their own behaviour, their 'boundaries' to use a poor modern term for the membranousness of human relationships, but really having 'insight' into their own motivation and seeing when other's falsely accused them of other motivations or denied their own underlying motivations.  Often there are 'motives in motives' and the the patients of psychoanalytic psychotherapy become very conscious of the behaviour of themselves and those around them.
Indeed administrators and leaders of society commonly sought psychoanalytic psychotherapy so that they would not just mess up society and their workplace with the unresolved issues of their childhood.
Today psychoanalysis despite it's hugely demonstrated benefits is rarely covered by health care because cheaper and often more effective less labor intensive therapies have been developped to address specific psychiatric problems.  Psychoanalytic psychotherapy, as evidenced in Cameron's book on cost effectiveness of therapies for the Ontario Government , is still widely used and hugely beneficial. It's limitations is in the rigors of training which fewer people are willing to undergo. A cornerstone of true psychoanalytic psychotherapy training is for the therapist to themselves be in therapy. This is often too humbling for the modern practitioners who claim 'bigger and better' brains and see their role as 'fixing' patients.
The fact is, experienced therapists rarely today are 'purists' and hence the designation "eclectic'.  One may begin with one therapy but in time and with more advanced training add to the original basis.  Psychoanalytic psycotherapy and psychoanalysis are still considered the best trainings for therapists because, frankly, too many counsellors use therapy to work out their own issues and to propagate their own agendas.  Insight helps patients and therapists alike.
I will go on to discuss the therapies I learned in the order which I learned them giving some insight into the terms used so that people might be better 'consumers' and make more sense of their own experience, their therapy and possibly guide them better in the direction of what they need rather than simply accepting what is offered.

Saturday, March 5, 2011

Controlling

Controlling is a necessary part of leadership. Leadership is obvious where it's an assigned role or where a person has agreed upon specific authority such as a guide or teacher.
Where it's toxic and bullying and may reflect underlying developmental issues is when the situation is recreational and there is no 'assigned' or 'agreed on' leadership. This can happen in all manner of relationships.
Often 'controllers' reckonizing their ugliness conceal their behaviour with a variety of strategies from passive aggressive, to mild aggreement.  'What would you like to do?" is followed by "Whatever you want to?" but then a pout occurs if you answer "skydiving". 
The "Whatever you want to do?" was really an invitation for you to play one of the controllers favourite games, "can you make me happy by telling me what I want to hear.'  This is also called the 'telepathy' or "mind reader" games.  The controller thinks "I'm having fun when everyone does what I really like to do.'  Often the controller thinks, "you don't really know what is good for you, I do, and therefore I will help you make decisions, without actually 'telling' you what I want, because I know people don't like to be 'told'. Controllers never appreciate how utterly narcissitic they are since they see themselves as such caring people.
Often among kids the controllers are identified by some kid saying "Who made you God?"  Adults are less likely to be so honest but nonetheless will find that being manipulated by controllers is irriating. Controllers at heart are really very limitted and afraid.  They act out of fear.
In transaction analysis terms (Games People Play) controlling is person who can't give up the 'parental' role in a play context.  Those who can't stop being 'parents' and 'adults' in play contexts are usually quite afraid of their 'inner child' who they think is a kind of evil twin.  Controllers often 'act' good and 'appear' good but in fact that's a cover up.  Underneath they're often angry and resentful.  Controllers want to be taken care of and want the world they are living in to be safe and to their design based on the limits of their past which gets lived out continuously in the present which they have to control or bad things might happen.  Controllers are desperately afraid of 'bad' things and the baddest things are 'unknowns'.  Hence why such good people are often said to live lives of quiet desperation.
They lack joy but have a kind of contentment. They're putting in time and want others around them to be satisfied within the prison of their perception. They never question the 'good enough'.  They don't like people who charge at windmills or reach for the stars.  In a way politically they are lemmings because they refuse to rock the boat or stick out. Behind the scenes they like to manipulate and control though.  Smiling they frown.

Thursday, January 20, 2011

Dissociation

Dissociation is a common psychological defense or unconscious coping strategy of the mind. At it's most extreme, there is the phenomena of multiple personality disorder which is really quite rare. In comparison, the fairly common experience of deja vu may in fact be a form of dissociative experience.
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is commonly associated with dissociation. Out of body experiences are also dissociative phenomena. The traumatic experience is seen to cause a person to enter and altered state. If this defensive removal of self to the other not being traumatized, away from the trauma into a compartmentalized self or other worldly self were to persist and develop another actual 'person' might occur.
In alcoholism and drug addiction there appears to be a dissociative phenomena occurring as expressed in the 'doctor jeckel and mr hyde' character. The person who had an addiction will experience a sense of not being themselves. They might indeed say "I'm not myself." A person in rage may have a similar sense of loss of self, the 'self' being the central and original cohesive person.
In treatment of addiction it's been helpful to refer to the addicted 'self' as the 'addict'.
In trauma, two identities can develop, the traumatized and not . If more develop this can give give rise to different genders and persons of different ages in the full blown multiple personality disorder.
In those who had dissociated in the act of sexual abuse there is commonly a vistigial person who is the age of the actual trauma. The experience of trauma may cause a person to 'lose the child' that was and become the 'adult' with the child persisting in a compartmentalized form and not growing up. With adult hood such individuals commonly have unconscious and uncontrollable childish behaviours and regressions. Therapy expedites the process and connects the two 'states'. "Persons", "states", "alters" have all been terms used by various people to describe the actual phenomena. Dr. Colin Ross in his classic, Dissociative Identity Disorder uses the latest words which have a common acceptance in the medical community. The term "multiple personality disorder' having been replaced by the more accurate term "Dissociative Identity Disorder."
The key is that an actual full 'identity' may not develop but only a vestigial aspect. For instance it's commonly said that an 'adult is acting like a child' or they sound they are 30 years going on 5 years old.
Emotional development is often arrested in trauma so that in recovery and therapy a person who may have stopped developing in child hood or adolescence will slowly regain the emotional maturity consistent with their biological age. A balanced well developed person doesn't stop being a child or having the capacity to act like a child or enjoy life in a child like way. Its just that in this person the adult person can choose when this is appropriate. It doesn't occur in an unconscious way driven by some trigger such as an adult challenge where fear is experience but expressed as anger and the experience of out of control in such a scenario throws one back to the developmental stage of the trauma or the point of maturity achieved in addressing the trauma. Because of the compartmentalization of identity and the warding off of the conscious encounter with the fear associated with the experience of trauma overall such people are limitted in their learning and commonly have difficulty with concentration and memory.
The computer with it's hard drive and ram are marvellous models for understanding the dissociative phenomena. If a hard drive is segmented and various identities are like a partitioned ram the computer owner will have less energy and computer power left because at any time the whole of the hard drive and ram can't be brought together in the dissociated individual.

At the simplest phobias are a form of dissociation where a person who has had an accident such as being caught in an elevator failure develops intense fear and panic in elevators. This panic and fear is not from being in a functional elevator today but rather because the intense fear engendered by the accidents breaks through from memory into the present.

Dissociative is worst where there has been extreme violence or childhood sexual trauma especially penetration with threats to family if disclosure.


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