Showing posts with label alcoholism. Show all posts
Showing posts with label alcoholism. Show all posts

Thursday, June 26, 2025

28 years

I took my cake at the Burnaby Men’s Group last night..  George had cataracts surgery so couldn’t make it. Marty graciously agreed to give me my cake and medallion instead. It’s all a huge honor to me.  I really admire George and Marty.  Marty kindly referred to my being a respected doctor and spoke to that moment when I sought help as we all must do. I was reminded of the sign at the Toronto IDAA , ‘we are not alone’.  It was only months before I’d thought myself outside the love of God which is arrogance of a special kind.
Now thanks to this program I’ve known Hank, Art, Archie, Bernie, Terry, Dave, Graham, Don, George and a whole group of intelligent beautiful women and friends. It was fun, then fun and trouble and finally just trouble. Only looking back could I see how the disease permeated my life contributing to the choices of work and wives and friends.  There was such disorder and chaos back then ,  Yes I sought to know God and serve but in my recreational binges like a soldier on leave I was the ultimate narcissistic hedonist.  This progressed to dominate my life till one day I stopped.  
We joke and say you can get off the elevator anywhere. You don’t have to go to the sub basement.  Graham said, some people run with the cheetahs and some people rune with the turkeys. I’d certainly run with the turkeys. I had low friends in low and high places..  And then I was out 
I’m glad I survived the treatment. I’m glad I remained in medicine.  I’m very grateful for the journey that took off and contained after I cleaned up the wreckage of my past.  How hard to realize the ‘promises’ came true when I had thought they were beyond mine,  Luke 15.  And that great song I was lost and now I’m found.  
ODAAT
Now another year is past.
I’m very thankful.  Dean said I was inspiring and Neil was a delight. Mario and Jack and Tom and so many others were there sharing and smiling.  It was so good to be apart of.  I really liked Manny.  We’d shared this journey together taking our cakes at different years listening to each others stories. I liked especially that he said he was working on doing nothing. Turning our will and our lives over to God. Walking upright and hoping to soar on eagles angel wings rather than crawling on our bellies.  The caterpillar butterfly transformation, 

The realization that we are together Where two or more are gathered together there too am I.  

Thank you God.  Thank you for my sobriety.  Now this next week I’ll be at the WDIR meeting on line and the International AA meeting and then the Spokane IDAA meeting.  Such good to look forward too.

I succeeded this morning in getting Madigan to have his worm medicine by giving him half a bin of Hagen Daz Vanilla Ice Cream to entice him to stop spitting them out.  Thank you Jesus  Agreat start to the day!

Saturday, September 7, 2024

Recovery Day Festival, 6thand6th, New Westminster

I arrived early.  Everyone is setting up.  Great to see known folk, Already received a hug from a beautiful Orchard organizer.  Good chat with a Last Door fellow.  Actually spoke to a Cedars volunteer.  Recovery is all about connection. I’ve also got a t shirt, We are #evidence.  
I am always astonished at how good looking everyone is.  It’s a night and day experience with the active addiction folk in the DTES. The men and women here have substance. Considering addiction knows no boundaries.  Recovery is open to all.  I think the women are looking particularly attractive not just healthy but fashion conscious. I remember Avalon centre holding fashion shows for the women in recovery.  After months and years of obsession with drugs and booze they celebrate self care in recovery. An oft heard saying in AA is ‘we’ll love you till you can love yourself’.  The shame in addiction is replaced by the dignity of recovery.  
I remember Dr. Graham Cunningham, Homewood Treatment Centre, now the former director saying, “People begin to eat again and next they visit a dentist,”. Cocaine does horrors to the teeth.  Doug Lovely, my cosmetic dentist and all around great guy  has an office  right beside the bandstand.  I noted several booths representing various dental clinics.  
There’s more tattoos here than at a church picnic.  More piercings . The spirituality here is inspirational.  Addiction is its own religion with alcohol, substances or other addictions as the God that is worshiped. No surprise the old folk called it ‘demon drink’.   People in recovery say ‘religion is for those who don’t want to go to hell and spirituality is for those who’ve been and don’t want to go back.’
A couple of older guys stopped and talked to me.  Shaking my hand and making ‘connection’.  The recovery community is friendly that way.  Addiction is isolation in a bubble with predators trying to take whatever money or life you have.  No surprise they call addiction a country and western song where you lose your family, home, job and truck. Recovery is country and western song played backwards.  All the good stuff comes back.  Health and peace of mind. 
The band is warming up and the female singer sounds New Orleans.  Such a powerful voice.   Powerful drums. 
I always love the dances in recovery because the guys are so enjoying themselves.  The same guys who used to need to be loaded to dance now are having a great time without staggering into tables and starting fights in the parking lot.
There’s Harm Reduction represented here too.  It’s either Palliative Care or a stepping stone to abstinence the’cure’ for addiction, There are some who get recovery either by stopping completely or going at their own speed. All roads in recovery were heading slower or faster away from the abyss.  You don’t have to take the elevator all the way to the sub basement.  You can get off at any floor.  Dr.  Ray Baker’s research showed that recovery from addiction was like other diseases, the earlier the intervention the higher the success.  No one is judging.  The inclusivity in the community is the recognition none are perfect and no one is a saint.  Honesty begins with the recognition of a problem and asking for help. I loved the banner at the IDAA, International Doctors in AA meeting which stated, “We are not alone”.  Addiction is so lonely.  Egomania with an inferiority complex and such a load of lies.
Lots more people here, I’ve had a muffin at Waves with Cafe Latte.  Madigan loves the smells of all the other dogs passing by.  He insisted on a taste of the muffin.  
Well the bands gone funky with a raw rock and roll sound that’s telling me I’ve done enough writing and must get into the present.  One day at a time.  Practicing the presence of God. It’s called the present because it’s a gift.  Getting my head in the same room as my ass is.
I’m so glad I’ve come. Great weather. Great people.  Such a terrific vibe. 




















Friday, July 7, 2023

Tucson Conference Friday

Before I came she showed me a picture she painted of me.  Like the photograph I took of myself in the islands.  The artistic self.  Not the warrior. Not the provider protector. But rather the gentle one.  I struggle today with the disparate history.  I am among a tribe, a neighbourhood, a community.  Many here welcome me. I sit at any table and am welcomed. There are none I don’t like. Many I simply don’t know. So many I know I admire. I’m alone in one sense but in so many I’m among my own.  Each of us unique but otherwise so similiar.

I missed the main speaker.  Family origins and trauma. I see these considerations more as fads and fashions.  Each day the world begins and the old Menninger Triangle and the Transactional analysis material is less than the presence of self.  Today is a day for God. I suffer gender dysphoria but mostly in cross dressing. I like to wear skirts, vestigial celtic leftover of the tartan kilt but it’s the silks and satins that appeal

The ladies recognised my nail polish as Lincoln Park after Dark. I laughed that two separately commented and three discussed this. It was like listening to men talk of sports and touch downs.  I’d like to know the names of colours more than than the names of various teams. I’m changing with age and want to adventure into observer but curious not paranoid.  

I can’t underestimate the stress of surviving in this dog eat dog survival of the fittest jungle.  Mostly it’s doing the ‘right thing’.  It’s also accepting. The world is this way.  I don’t feel much joy in application of band aids but the demonstration of kindness is good .I’m releasing my own judgemental ness, getting to the bottom of the law of attraction.

As above so below.  That which I love and hate I attract. If I am judgemental and emotionally entrenched in sone position I bring more of that forward.  Even now the grief of not having children and moving towards the end of life is heavy. Yet I would not have it any other way.  We say we will not ‘regret the past’.  I can’’t change the past but I can change my perspective of it and embrace the myriad facets of myself.   I have loved and been loved. I ‘ve loved in conventional and unconventional ways so I ‘m okay .  

I have masturbated and my whole life and even today is heightened by the beauty of women . Yet there’s a sense of the individual beyond form. There’s the souls which shine in intimacy and the overall package loses appeal. I don’t like fatness and yet it feels good. The emphasis on sight yet in the moment of coupling comfort is paramount.  What I miss though is the fitness, the athletes dancing.  I am at a loss with the physical pain of aging and the limitation and vulnerability of this back injury.  

It’s all psychosomatic, my pain as much a matter of emotion and past as mechanics.  I imagine if my election was robust and I could lift a woman with her back against the wall and plunge my penis into the joy of her vagina I’d be fine. But today I’m afraid to lift most anything. I don’t find that I’m orgasmic with the thrust and miss the youth and premature ejactualtion threat when holding on to make it last and hopefully bring more pleasure to the love was all so important. But then I realized I was working at cross purposes .  The central dishonesty of sexual congress with me struggling to pleasure and arounse the woman, bringing platters of treats to the princess was little more than feeding the raccoons. 

Love your neighbour as yourself. I’ve been generous and kind in love and offered to pleasure in whatever way but that’s been rebuked. The whole feminist Marxist attack on the marriage bed has defined the last decade. Everywhere I turn I see self proclaimed victims and I’m attacked constantly in media and by the Marxist allies. The authorities are deeply evil and I’m punished by racists and sexists whose slick constructionist arguments no longer have any appeal.  They shout ‘me first…..me firsts.

I feel at war and want to drift down the stream and fear I’m alone. I’m more vulnerable and don’t feel protected or even safe with those I know . It’s all the betrayal. 

Yet here I am alive. I’ve obviously complained too much and had too much self pity. I’m feel I’m in the autum of my life and the other seasons were magnificent.

It’s what to do next and there’s no rush.  The months and may be years are fine. I’m fine. I’m progressing but I don’t feel clearly the plan that God has for me. I turn my life over to the care of God.  I ask to know his will and to serve. I’m moving along but wonder at the anchors that hold me in a past that I’m shedding like a skin. What is the future. Who am I.

I must lose weight and become healthy again. I don’t feel that I’m joined in this critical task by those who I am closest to . They’ve lived a life of luxury and hedonism and their bodies like mine show the emotional stuffing and unwillingness to address the central anxiety

Denial of death and fear of death and fear of dying are all central now as so many of those close have passed over. I’m falling and want to fly.  Life is an adventure.  I don’t want to go gentle into that still night.  Rage Rage against the dying of the life. Rather I’d dance.  I simply must counteract the effect of the office desk and seat with a lot more effort and healthy living.  

Thank you Jesus. More comfort in a crowd for me today. My mind is one. My heart another, my body another.  I’m balancing and walking a tightrope forward.  Thank you Jesus. 

Thursday, July 6, 2023

Tucson Conference

“Look for the similarities,  not the differences,’ he told me years ago.  I’m terminally unique. I have a sense of alienation and really do feel that if people like me there’s something wrong with them or some kind of catch.  Trauma responses.  Character flaws.  I’m waiting for the next shoe to drop.   I remember feeling a part of when I was drinking and smoking dope. I fit in the circle I was in. 

I have had such support. So many miracles. The people here have truly ‘loved me till I could love myself”.  I was so filled with shame after the betrayals, losses and negative associations.  This program is all about honesty.  I was raised in a Christian community with Christian parents and honesty was essential.  In the last years before I stopped drinking I associated with chronic liars.  Compulsive liars.  And Political liars.  I understood their lack of truth.  Fear is the basis of so much but those that supported them were the problem.  Proxy violence and mob mentality. I was confronted with ‘nests’ and had thought there was only one.  They were like a hospital infection.  The insaniety was real. I wanted to be there then.  Now I look back and it’s like this part of my mind is a mine field.  

“Your mind is a bad neighbourhood. You shouldn’t go there alone,” he said.  

There are a dozen other Canadians here.  Maybe a couple of dozen psychiatrists.  Some single.  Most seem to be married with families.  Lots of Al Anon. Lots of couples . So many of the gay doctors are themselves married. I feel alone. Different. I once felt young and new but now I’m old and I’ve paid my dues.  

We’ve not seen anyone come back from where you’ve been before.’ She was thanking me and looking at me in awe. Resilience but then she didn’t know about all the doctors here who’d held me up till I could stand alone.

Now I still want to isolate. I’m so raw. Talking openly with these men and women I’ve known decades and admire so deeply.  

“I used to have goals and plans and projects and knew where I was going to be in 5 years. I was aiming for things. I had grand adventures and goals and purpose. Now it’s like there’s success all around . I’ve friends and purpose .  Serving God.  Helping patients.  But no real vision.  I’m really living day by day.  Other’s are retiring and I’m continuing to work if only because I’ve nothing better to do . My projects are putting a rack on the front of my truck to carry my truck.  Empty the storage locker.  Let Go and Let God. Surrender.  Drop the rock.  I’m getting through ODAT but no longer on a flight from demons well aware of the hound of heaven.  Be still and know that I am god.

I’m waiting for a sign I guess.  

I’ve sexual identity issues.  So many old people loose interest but I don’t want to go that route. I want to dance till I die. I want to do more hikes and live.  I’m not ready for the sedentary life .  I long to travel, swim more, explore.  Yet I like to work and have reduced the hours from 80 to 40 and might work less yet.  I’ve a sail boat that waits on shore and I could sell it or crew it and all it needs to cross and ocean is anti fouling paint and some topside paint. It’s been on land for five years. I’d rather just take my truck and camper and motorcycle and explore the US and Canada by land. 

I loved Steinbeck’s Travels with Charley and want to write more.  I like to write. I like to visit art galleries and museums, read history and novels.  I’m not as excited by chemistry as I once was.  I’m changing and don’t know who I’ll be in a year.  I don’t like wearing parkas anymore and miss sailing in the tropics dressed in khakis or sarong. I’m looking forward to leaving Canada when the snow flies . It’s as far ahead as I can plan.  Working virtual.  Laura continues to work and our schedules weave in and out.  We were apart in Covid and back together.  I’m happiest in her company .  She’s my favourite human.  

Now I’ve a meeting to got to .  The newcomers introduced themselves and I remembered how afraid I was back then.  Now I’m still searching for God’s will.  But today I head that the key was simply the searching. Each day I wake with prayer and ask for guidance.  It’s worked so far.  Dave shared he still has niggling fears as Tommy spoke about her moments of uncertainty but we all spoke of those unspeakable moments of joy. Practicing the presence of God.  







Tucson Conference

IDAA….the flight down was long.  I’m awake at 4 am because I had to wake yesterday that early to arrive here for the teen banquet.  It’s hot.  Desert country.  The taxi was a hundred dollars from the Airport.  I talked to the taxi driver about treating vets with PTSD, Harley Davidson Motorcycles and  fine quality of American highways compared to Canada.  Like Rome’s whose roads hundreds of years later were  still evident  in Europe.  Like their Aquaducts.  Thinking of Time , permanence and impermanence.
I checked in at the Hilton EL Conquistaor resort.  War and rumours of war. I’ve just read about the American invasion of Mexico, their conquering of Mexico City and annexing of half the Mexico of the day, California, New Mexico, Texas and some of Arizona.  

The first person I saw I recognised was my flamboyantly gay colleague from California.  He’s was in deep conversation with a couple and by the time I’d checked in he was gone. I saw more I knew then, shaking hands, hugging, being welcomed and thoroughly feeling a part of.  These were my people. My tribe.   I stopped at the gift shop and bought a bathing suit having realized on the hot ride over I’d forgotten mine.  Everywhere was air conditioning.  Glorious air conditioning.

Tucson is a city in the desert with lots of trees and khacky shrubbery and cactus but also desert and bare high hills.  Hard for me coming from the Canadian Rockies to call them mountains. I missed the emerald green forests of my home.  The terrain and territory of this oonference spoke to survival.  The land here was tough.  Where I come from nativies have used words like ‘Comox’ which means abundance to describe their homeland. . Here it’s definitely a place where folk have carved out an existence and fought against the desert to make an existence.  

40 degrees.  I felt it after my shower walking to the teen banquet.  The Conquistado resort is spread out. I’m in the second three floor building across from the main resort conference centre.  The banquet was down the hill and I walked with a truly beautiful woman who was wearing white cowboy boots , white hat and baby blue frilly western dress.
“You still have the tag on your cowboy hat,”  I said.

“I know ,’ she said , “I wasn’t strong enough to break the tie.  Do you think you could do it.”  

I was glad to, Helping a beautiful young lady in distress does an man’s heart good. Following her I met up with my friends of years, the quite handsome, tall John with his loving beatuiful wife. They were with another couple.   I was now part of a group of 6, maybe the oldest with the beauty queen cowgirl, by far the youngest.  We headed down to the banquet where all sorts of friendship bloomed.  I was simply enthralled to see my colleagues of decades.  Hugh,  Nathan, Dave,  Art, Daryl , Julie, and so many more.

After Covid some still bumped knuckles in greeting but most shook hands and hugged. It was good to be home. I realized with the joy of joining how alone I’d felt,

My closest of  friends of have ed in the last few years.  My parents were gone, then my brother. And George I met in rehab. We’d go for dinner and a meeting once a month. Sharing, reminiscing.  Never was their a finer friend. He called these our ‘soul food’ times because we had sole at the famed Chez Michel.  He was like a brother to me and for decades we shared so much.  I cry thinking of him and my brother. Then my friend John died.  His son Luke has had a baby since.  Called me and I’ve yet to visit.  I loved his father. He;’d had a horseback jumping accident and become paraplegic like Supervamn.  He once said to me as we were walking and wheeling, walking our dogs , “You know I think I’d rather be in this chair, than your head.”

John,my psychiatrist friend introduced me to his wife , “This is Bill, “ to some of us, ‘wild bill in purely affectionate way. “’

 I was so thankful Dave was there. H’d survived his recent heart surgery. Saw him virtually in an office gown in recovery.  Darryl was looking more stooped  but I remember when we were all younger .  Now we looked at the older men. We were all a  little stooped. I complain about my back ache these days but I still stand mostly up right. Over dinner I shared that sex hurts because of the back pain.  One colleague said he too is  not having sex much because of the pain but another’s wife commented about their marriage, “I’m thankful we don’t have that problem.”  She smileed at her husband who hardly blushed

“I lost Vivian to Covid last year. She was a grandmother , Medicine woman, decades sober, very active in AA. She became an Anglican priest. I loved to serve on the Aboriginal Urban Ministry with her.  She worked with the street natives. We would have a banquet. I’d shoot bear and venison and give her lots of meat for these because I didn’t particularly like bear meat.  But I gave her moose too so I was generous.  I enjoyed the irony that the big native feasts east year were suppled by a white man.  I miss her though.  I don’t realize how much grief has taking ti’s toll in my life in recent years.”.

She was a beautiful young woman from Louisiana and I told her about my first psychiatrist mentor from the south, Hank Olivier.  “We met in 97 at the meeting in Toronto’s.  He feigned he needed help finding a Tilly hat. It was his sneaky way of getting me out of myself . I’d felt such shame and remorse coming to that meeting, celebrating’ We are not alone’.  I’d been so stigmatized and isolated , bullied and truly rumbled. In a divorce and not working I’d thought I’d leave psychiatry and return to general practice, missing the collegiality I’d known in my year of surgical residency. Now here I was betrayed and lied to by the drunken drug abusing psychiatrists that I’d chosen to be among.
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I’ll never forget Graham saying to me in those days I contemplated suicide and thought I only had God. “Some people run with the cheetah’s and some people run with the Turkeys. You’ve surely been running with the turkeys.’  Those were the years before UBC became the shining light it has become today.  I remember the head of psychiatry and my self talking about our quitting ringing in a meeting of AA.  It was a big meeting in North Vancouver with lots of celebrities from the movies being made in Hollywood North.  I  remember saying to one fellow getting coffee with me, “You know you look a lot like…..”.  “Yea, I get that a lot.’  I sat down with my friend Julie, who was on Baywatch with Pamela Anderson at the beginning of the show. Just sitting with Julie was special. She was the sexiest most head turning woman I’d ever known.  My friend Bill from Fort Gary childhood whose sister was my brother’s friend used to sit with us and we’d make such a fun time of it.  

Did you see the guy who looked like,….?” I asked Julie.  

He doesn’t just look like….. He is him.  I talked to him at the beginning of the meeting. WE were in a show together. 

Just about the most greatest actor in Canada and Holly wood I’d say.

“He’s a real spokesman for recovery too,’ she said.

Now here I was with my other Julie friend. The gorgeous brilliant New York ballerina Julie.  We’ve talked dance for years and visiting art galleries and d museums. I love New York and talked about my friend Laura. “She taking care of my dog at my home right now,”. 

The halibut, burghers, salad made a fine meal. I drank lots of iced lemonade and iced tea.  I was sharing with my plastic surgeon friend.  I’m suspicious because they never seem to grow older looking handsome and lovely as the day met them , a cover girl and a cover boy.  Meanwhile the rest of us seem to have a whole lot more wrinkles.  

“One day I think I need a face lift and the next day I rather like the wrinkles.’  

“I’ve made a living taking taking them away,’ he laughed.

The psychiatrist with us added “I’m not sure I’d want to lose mine since they’re the one thing I truly have earned myself,”.  

I thought then of the years of sailing in trade winds and the open sea.  The wrinkles I see in the mirror always remind me of that and I don’t want to forget the days outdoors.  

Another rabbit hopped along the sidewalk as I returned to my room that night saying a series of good nights. I’d notice a whole lot of rabbits by the air port and thought it must be a cycle of proliferation. They come and go.  I had talked some of hunting  with a man who fished sharing that I’m not as keen to hunt as I once was, if only because the work of bringing in big game is so overwhelming. I’m thinking of fishing more remembering my father shifting that way in his 70’s and 80’s .  

“I’d shared over dinner with John How I tried my big electro glide motorcycle I’d ridden to the meeting in Colorado on and another time at the Portland meeting, for a new smaller Nightster Special and how much more I enjoyed it.  Like grouse hosting versus deer hunting. “I’m considering selling my 14 ton sailboat for a smaller one I could handle solo without such work and effort.”  

“You ‘re getting ‘right sized” John said and laughed . We talk abot about ego especially egomania with inferiority complexes.  .  Yes I guess. I’ am , finally I’d said.  

It was so good to see all the old friends and then to meet Ann the psychiatrist  and Rick both decades sober in Rhode Island and the Carolinas but at their first IDAA meeting. We were reassuring a necomer.  “I got into drugs and alcohol and lost everything. I was so down I was living on the streets and someone convinced me to go into treatment. I did and it’s been 9 years . Now friends have convinced me to return to work as a psychiatrist and I’m shadowing a colleague at the hospital and being facing review to have my licences fully restored. A lot has changed since I quit work for booze,’ he said.  “I’m studying and being revived for my knowledge. I’d thrown myself i onto recovery after treatment and I’m pretty solid in that regards.

Ann had told him that ‘we re thought of as better than before for so many.’  Like broken bones that heal stronger.  

“I was a program director for many years,’ Rick shared . “We were all so glad to have people who’d fallen and risen back up return. They ‘d shown real resilience and character and related so well with patients offering so much more than they had before.

Daryl laughed, “I was drinking a micky a day when I was head of the alcohol treatment program in our hoss;pitas. I certainly was a much better doctor when I got sober.

“I had a DUI and that’s what brought me to the attention of the authorities.  I was glad for the monitoring. No one could doubt me after that and I’d found as anoyiong it was I found it helped.

I felt warm and cozy like a late night cookies and milk treat my mom sometimes gave me when I couldn’t sleep. 

Last night I slept really well. No nightmares.  I’d shared our gun stories with another psychiatrist. The patients pulling guns on us and demanding narcotics or bentos.  I was thankful to laugh about us getting out of the situations. “I was supervising a resident watching through two way mirror when the patient pull;ed a gun on the resident who smoothly said he’d have to discuss this with his supervisor and stepped out to talk to me the patient following with the gun and now me the resident and patient with the gun all continuing the discussion.  He said he’d had a few of those occasions working in forensics with the vets.  “I was in charge of a group. They’d all killed and they were all packing and I admit it was pretty dicey at times but such a good feeling to watch them settle down after their years of deployment, the paranoid dissipate. I don’t think one had a gun on him when we had our last meeting together.  ‘

The air is dry and fresh here.  The sun has risen over the bare brown hill and the sky is a turguoise blue like the jewelry worn here.  Since I’m up I’m going to make it to the early morning Attitude of Gratitude meeting I used to attend when Hal was alive.  So many have died but I’ve known them and been touched to the very core by knowing them.  Art was so proud. All my sons are in recovery now, he said.  I remember his wife Carole and he at the Portland meeting having dinner with another psychiatrist and his wife sharing their concerns and anxiety about their children ‘s addictions and how they were handling it and their hopes they’d find their way out of the misery.  Art’s son was taller than d his father, what people would call a ‘strapping young man’.

Standing in line for burgehers I said to Art, “you’re a good father’.  “It’s been a long haul but we’re feeling a lot more hope these days and I’m thankful I’m still doing it.”

Art had been my mentor when I worked in the states. He was on the executive of the American Psychiatric Association at the time and I’d phone him late at night to discuss a difficult patient especially the ones with PTSD from the militartym.  My said had been RCAF and Art was Air Force too.  A decade older and truly an inspiration.  I feel it in my heart seeing him.  He’s stooped a bit now. He’s had surgery for his knees afte all that jumping out of planes and carrying heavy packs overwrought terrain.  His wife had told him when the children were little, “You can either have me or the bottle .”  “Best decision I ever made, said Art looking across at the beautiful blond whose stood by his side all these years.  

It’s as Ptttsburgh and we’d all gone off to the Andry Warhol. Museum with Hank who’d been a flight surgeon in the Navy begore coming into recovery .  We’d laughed at and with Art who couldn’t see the merit in a soup can painting. There was some big Pittsburgh game playing that night and we were talking football and Andy Warhol and Hank was asking me about the time I served in Churchill and was chasers by polar bears.  

“We are not a glum lot,”. The banner statement shared one year. I’ve yet to know what this theme is this conference.  I’ll earne today .  I missed registration so didn’t have a name tag at the meriting. “I’m truly anonymous,” I quipped and an old timer I ‘ve known decades, said, “I”m sorry I’ve known you forever but I’ve forgotten your name. I’m having some troubles with my memory.”   I was hearing him through the hearing aids I was still adjusting 

“Bill” I said. Smiling. I’m here feeling sorry for myself thinking of all the friends I’ve lost and here’s my friend of decades, another psychiatrist colleague, aging gracefully and slowly losing his mind.  

I still cry thinking of that first meeting in Toronto and the banner, “We are not alone,”. Hank and the search for a Tilly Hat and that feeling of coming home.  Now here I am again  


Wednesday, August 21, 2019

Recovery: Whose job is it?

Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous

“You will be most successful with alcoholics if you do not exhibit any passion for crusade or reform. Never talk down to an alcoholic from any moral or spiritual hilltop, simply lay out the kit of spiritual tools for his inspection.””

Commentary

When we are teaching junior doctors and counsellors we advise them to watch themselves carefully to see if they are putting more effort than the patient into ‘rescuing or curing’ them.  Whose job is it?  I can’t make a person drink the medicine. I can give them the medicine.  Indeed it’s been said that I will hold their head under the water to make them drink but that after a while even with that approach even some would drown rather than drink.

Addiction is in part a pout.  Enablers are treating alcoholics and adults like children when they are adults.  Perhaps proto adult,  Adolescent really, but to be adult you don’t start ‘babying them’ for their own good. You offer them resources to ‘recover’, not to persist in their addiction.

I remember hearing these two addicts discussing social services, “I’ve now got a place, there’s free meals at the church, and I’ve got a bus pass, now all my disability money can go to drugs.’  

Giving money to an addict is actually giving money to his dealer.  One of the most successful ‘harm reduction’ policies which worked for years until some aetheist interfered, was a local priest who took checks from addicts on Welfare Wednesday check day, then doled their money back to them daily. I have a patient whose sister gives her brother $10 a day because when he had $20 he spent it on crack. His dealer actually approached him each day to ask if he had $20.

Adulthood is ‘accountability’.  

The brain disease of addiction is that it causes the forebrain or judgement to be impaired. A person loses the capacity for ‘delayed gratification’.

 “I want it all and I want it now.”

There is a regression from adulthood back to adolescent learning.  In recovery we describe the person as "40 going on 15." It seems there’s an emotional delay that occurs once a person becomes addicted. Most people learn to ‘self soothe’ without drugs and alcohol. The alcoholic or addict may act juvenile but they’re always very canny.  Their capacity to think is not impaired in that sense. The fatal flaw is their inability to carry through with plans.  They have all the ideas of the ‘adolescent’ or ‘child’ but lack the capacity to complete tasks, overcome adversity, work together, delay gratification.  These are all adult skills.  Drugs disrupt learning 'adulting'.

I treat mechanical brain injury, when a person drives a motorcycle into the wall hitting their head and chemical brain injury, when a person dumps drugs and alcohol on the chemical circuit board of the brain.  The behaviour and function are very similiar though fortunately for the alcoholic and addict initially the damage is reversible if they abstain.  The recovery process are the same.

In ‘detox’ treatment, empirically it was necessary to establish a barrier if only slight to access.  Years ago when I was heading a detox we would admit a person who while drinking had remorse and wanted to ‘go on the wagon’.  As the drugs cleared their system they ‘changed their mind’ and left. Today most detox require a person to be seeking detox for 24 to 48 hours. The success is greater.  The greater the commitment the greater the success. Even with Suboxone a person must be in ‘withdrawal’ before the treatment can begin. If this medication which is a combination of opiate and antagonist was given to a person ‘high’ it would just throw them into painful withdrawal.  

The treatment of choice for addiction and alcoholism is abstinence.  Harm reduction has always been considered a valid ‘stepping stone’ or ‘entry’ point to recovery.  Recovery is the whole ‘process’.     

When you feel you’re doing more work at their recovery than they are, it’s time to back off.  Alcoholism and addiction are in part escapism. The adult with every drink becomes more childlike, seeking the tit or womb.  They become legless and incompetent.

With an injured person in the emergency we as doctors provide immediate care and take over the function for the person in the first day but even if we put them on respirators and bypass machines we are always working to get them off.

The survival post surgery is best in those who get up and walk on their own.  Why would we think differently in treating mental illnesss. The aim is to restore a person to full functioning. Yet there are enablers and those who ‘appear’ to care. but are really negative not believing in the possibility of recovery for an individual.  They are the enablers who infanticize the alcoholic or addict and provide them everything.

I wonder when I see what my mechanical brain injured patient is given versus the chemical brain injured person. When the latter is getting ‘more’ something is wrong.  The recovery from mechanical brain injury, if severe, still can occur but it’s slow. Fortunately the person isn’t continuing to hit themselves in the head with a hammer like the addict who continues to relapse.

If they  are alcoholic or addict continues to drink especially then we are the problem not them. We are enabling them to do more brain injury and more destruction.  Limit setting is adulting.

Unfortunately as children mirror adults, addicts and alcoholics mirror their caregivers.  When caregivers are unable to set limits, have rules, be themselves disciplined in their ‘giving’, then the addict or alcoholic doesn’t learn. As a life guard my first lesson was not to let the drowning person pull me down with them.

The original AA members when they went out to talk to an active alcoholic found that if they went alone they were as likely to start drinking again themselves.

We’ve seen many of the institutions established in good faith to help alcoholics and addicts take on the emotional maturity and behavioural developmental stages of the alcoholics and addicts.  The institution is pulled down by the drowning alcoholic and addict.  

There are caregivers and victims.

The joke in the church was that it should be called ‘sinners anonymous’. It was also said that we should not  ‘judge’ another because they ‘sinned’ differently.

It was found in Al Anon, the organization for friends and family of alcoholics, that ‘enabling’ and engaging in the ‘self delusions’ of alcoholics,’arguing with them’ , ‘coercing’ them etc was counter productive.  The Al Anon learned instead to ‘detach with love.’

The “holier than thou’ approach to addiction simply doesn’t work. The ‘I am the doctor, you are the patient’ doesn’t work either. What has worked quite miraculously is the approach of “I’ve had your problem" and "I’ve got a little further ahead while I’m still working on a problem.”

I asked a doctor how he had climbed Mount Everest and he told me that there was a club in Switzerland where people who had climbed Mount Everest gathered. He’d gone and learned from them.12 step programs have been similar clubs.  These are people who were spiritually bankrupt but now are rich on life. 

The job is not to ‘feed’ the alcoholic or addict for life’ but rather to ‘share the spiritual tools with those who want to learn and want recovery’.  The "Stages of Change" was developed by Prochaska to address the Motivational level of individuals who had various diseases.  As a caregiver one offers the ‘options’ and encourages ,but doesn’t do the work for the individual and doesn’t enable or ‘carry’ the person other than briefly.  

One of the problems with lack of resources in the area is that many ‘acute’ resources have been commandeered by the ‘chronic’ .  Hospital beds that are specially established as an ‘acute’ services are being used by mismanagment government for ‘chronic beds’.  Lack of chronic low cost housing results in losses of millions as the mismanaged constipated system backs up and high priced acute services are wasted on ‘chronic’ care.

Perhaps this is evidence that the ‘system’ and ‘institution’ has become more drunk or drug addicted or ‘diseased’ than those for who the service was intended.







Monday, August 5, 2019

IDAA 2019 Knoxville Tennessee, Part 2

It’s Sunday. I’m sitting in the Knoxville Market square.  I’ve just come from hearing Lori share her experience, strength and hope. She’s a humble heroine of the soul.  What an amazing story of hope,  growth and humor.  With epidemic suicide rates among doctors I’m so glad she found her way here.
 My personal nemesis has been sociopaths and psychotic people in power. I’ve fulfilled my contract, doing the best possible healing,  with the best training. I’ve served, reducing  “morbidly and mortality”, fighting disease and saving lives. 
Today that’s of little importance compared with ‘political correctness.’  Today,  the patient can die so long as the ‘chart’ lives. It’s all about spin and who you know. 
My police friend described her leaving the force saying, “I became a police woman to ‘fight crime’ . At the end end all I was allowed to do was ‘record’ crime’.  I feel like I joined the best hockey team in Canada. However today the  coach  only excelled in writing memos. Instead of firing coaches, doctors are required do more laps of the ice.
Lori’s challenges were family, sense of loss and betrayal traced back to childhood. I suspect my anti authority issue could relate to  being caned and strapped in school for ‘talking back’. 
 IDAA is always a time of deep reflection.  It’s not a place to ‘blame’ as much as I enjoy that. We discuss ‘choices’. 
In the psychiatry breakout meeting we talked of retirement, hearing among others, from my favourite retired psychiatrist,  his joy in welded art. Others talked of ways of winding down. Meanwhile the youngest heard  our stories and shared their own struggles with their new careers and their aspirations. 
It’s sadly the only place in the profession today that we talk openly and honestly without fear of retribution by the authorities or ‘loss of face’.  I attended the national medical meeting and enjoyed the didactic ‘fact’ lectures somewhat but felt so much ego. I was glad I’d worn my suit and tie. 
At IDAA most everyone wore shorts and Hawaiian shirts except for the banquets. The girls looked great in sun dresses. The ladies were so elegant. The group cleaned up well. Every conference there’s a thousand present plus or minus a hundred or so. Some 40,000 plus are active members. 
Saturday night banquet Merve gave the most succinct and moving banquet speech. He described his journey of recovery as a series of interventions  of divine and human love. He ended his extraordinarily miraculous talk with a quote from the Doobie Brother’s “Without love where would we be now?” “Without Love where would we be now!”. 

Of course,it was a medical conferenece too. That day I’d attended a terrific CME discussing reward centers, the amygdala, nucleus accumbens, the pre frontal cortex, and effects of dopamine and oxytocin. which drugs did specifically what. We even learned the genetic codes associated with predisposition to alcoholism. 
The Friday CME was especially good. I loved Dr. Michael Baron’s talk, Prescribing and Pain. In Tennessee the doctors prescribing opiates must attend two hours of CME on addiction and opiates. I was privileged to attend this, truly appreciating the combination of neuroscience , public health and common sense presented. 

Abstinence remains the treatment of choice  but Dr. Bill Haning's talk, Cultural Aspects of Addiction,  on Culture of Addiction emphasized that treatment  isn’t just stopping a substance but involves significant life changes to prevent relapse. The work addressed in this CME was about harm reduction and abstinence.  The speaker talked of the great benefits of AA fellowship but also discussed a variety of groups which also help. 

Having dealt with so much grief, such mind numbing, debilitating, heart rending sadness , I simply enjoyed the  Dr Jes Montgomery's talk on grief and recovery. It was healing personally and certainly gave me tools to help with patients.

Our small group discussion of illnesss and recovery, dealing with pain without opiates, avoiding relapse when opiates were needed post surgery, was highly informative.  I’d thought this group of doctors who were so good looking and smart were immune and immortal.  We all discussed  various illness we’d had and various treatments. .One had just had surgery. I’d had a dental implant. Another had arthritis.  It’s one thing to read  the textbooks some of which were written by people in the room, but a whole other thing to hear what people actually did.  

As a psychiatrist we learn about the ‘self’ , the false self, the ego, and  ‘persona’ . Quite frankly IDAA is the only place I really get to talk with other physicians,but especially psychiatrists. The other docs and specialists say it’s the same them..  I loved my colleague from a small town saying this was the only time he’d spoken truthfully and meaningfully with another psychiatrist in ‘years’.  

Training as an analytic psychotherapist  I’d early enjoyed bearing my soul and gaining  useful insights . But here it was even better because I knew that the psychiatrist I was sharing with had been divorced like me. No one claimed to have the answers here. No one was holier that thou. I just love the lack of hypocrisy. There certainly wasn’t any pomposity which seems to thrive elsewhere. 
Dick didn’t pretend he didn’t have feel pain walking. Cheryl didn’t conceal her love and concern. No one was just ‘fine’ (that’s an acronym which ‘fucked inside, nice exterior’ ).  Everyone’s hurting sometime. But here everyone knew that and also also shared their love and their joy. 
I heard the most wonderful stories of trips, travels, children and grandchildren, recovery and successes in work.I was so pleased my young Canadian friend was now on the national board. Several other docs I knew had completed fellowships, while others had become heads of programs and hospitals. 
Through the year I read about the ‘greats’ in our fields who I meet here.  World renown plastic surgeons and cardiologists with the rankest sense of humor continue to inspire me.  The most beautiful brilliant elegant ladies talking intimately about their disease and finally asking for help touch my inner being. I laugh and tear up more in these days than I do all year.
It was also so moving to be among the many there with incredibly long term marriages.  What examples these 30, 40 and 50 year married doctors provided. My friends Art and Carole have 53 years together but seem like high school sweethearts.  
I loved seeing Adam and Corinne when Corinne celebrated the Jerry Moe program sharing what it meant for her son. I loved seeing the Jerry Moe kids and the outrageous teens.  The babies and toddlers there represented hope and faith in the flesh.  
Overall I felt again I’d entered an adult learning place  of genius and creativity beyond the limited world of bean counters and administration that saw health care as commodity. I was able to discuss difficult patients and changes in treatment over coffee and in  hall way consults.  
The whole relevance of ‘sign in’ CME came up for discussion in our little group where the actual definition of a professional was so reminiscent of what I’d signed up for. “I learn from a patient. If someone comes in with something I don’t know, that triggers my research and consultation.  I don’t pay attention to all this other stuff that does’t apply to me and my area of work.”  The anesthesiologist shared.
That was exactly what I thought.   I will never forget administrative doctor shouting ‘doctors should never learn from patients’ they’re there to teach the patients’. By contrast,  at times over coffee,  it seemed like a ‘barter market’. I was sharing psychiatry jewels I’d been bequeathed to get in return dermatology pearls. This is the  way ‘adult professionals’ learn. But then we wondered if this only worked because we were in this IDAA bubble where it was okay to be to not know everything’, to be vulnerable, and to share. I joked about sitting at the ‘in table’ with Art and Dick and Graeme.  

It was fun to be at IDAA.  I emailed a friend who I hope to see at next year’s high school reunion saying, “IDAA  iwas like being at a doctors ‘ elementary school reunion’ . It could only be better if Jerry Moe and the kids let’s us join their program. All that was missing was the dance with the mirrored balls hanging from the ceiling.

Next year it’s Spokane. IDAA2020 Spokane.

I love the town of Spokane and already know some brilliant psychiatrists there.  I’m thinking of riding my Harley down and certainly wearing boxers even if they do ride up my ass.  I’m all signed up.  IDAA is like the love story “same time next year’.  
I know I’d never have been able to stay a doctor and especially a psychiatrist without IDAA.  I might not even be alive.  I certainly wouldn’t have this life beyond my wildest dreams.  I may not have the spaceship I want but I can truly say with the deepest gratitude I’ve had times of being rocketed into the fourth dimension.  I can’t wait to read the cyberdoc on line discussions (and gossip)  in the coming weeks.  I love hearing  Hugh, Nathan,  Zeke and Dave . I actually talked to two doctors Saturday  who had been to Antatica. One who worked there and the other wanted to see penguins. There’s something about belong to a group of doctors with characters like that.

God bless.





















Friday, August 2, 2019

IDAA 2019 Knoxville, Tennessee, Part 1

I enjoyed flying United despite Vancouver to Knoxville taking most of a day. I had reservations at the Hilton on Church Street.  Great rooms and service.  The Knoxville Convention Centre, 2 blocks away, is a fine venue for IDAA.  Lots of rooms, pleasant service. Good acoustics.
I arrived at the beginning of the New Comerr’s banquet. This always takes me back to my own first IDAA. Those stewing feelings, a keen mixture of fear and resentment, some curiosity, with a teeniest touch of hope.
This year was IDAA’s  70th anniversary.  The planning committee captured the history of the association with posters and presentation. I bought the book IDAA: The First Sixty Years 1949-2009 edited by Gordi Hyde MD.  I love the pictures as much as the text.
Clarence Pearson a friend of Bill Wilson’s, founded the organization in 1949.  I’d heard a lot about Luke Reed. I’ve personally been blessed to know the McKinleys, Hyde’s, Syferts and most recently the Metcalf’s.. 
Immediately I was hugging and being hugged by old friends. I’d already seen Nathan surrounded by young people at the airport.  Art and Carole and Bobbi and Tom always light up my heart.  Dick and Cheryl are so uplifting.  Graeme C. Randy A. Tommy, Traci, Jeff, Madeleine, Ryan, Merv,  so many others. Old friends just appear out of the heavens like so many angels. 
With a belly full of good food, great stories and recovery I slept well.  I joked that normally I spiritually crawl into this meeting on my belly. This time I was actually walking.  
IDAA makes it possible for me to practice medicine and psychiatry. The inspiration and like minded doctor experience has been essential. Thanks to Ray B. Toronto was my first meeting.  I met Hank, the Louisiana Psychiatrist there. For years till his death he’d ground me and inspire me.  When the system and powers were more psychotic that the patients I was treating his humour kept me going. 
Hal’s ‘Attitude of Gratitude’ meeting began 7 am.  I loved the stories people shared of Hal. He was so kind to me when I first came to IDAA.   He chaired a meeting at the White House. His wife, a graceful ball room dancer  would delightfully dance with me at meetings.  Hal, laughing,  loved to watch us do Viennese waltz in the hallways of IDAA. 
The Al Anon family meeting was so enjoyable.  My friend Bobbi was one of the speakers.  The meeting broke up into discussion and sharing around each table. 
The LGBT meeting, with tales of stigma, anger, shame , and then recovery with dignity followed.
I loved the cyber doc break out, seeing Dave and Zeke and a cast of others I normally only read on line.
Medical issues in recovery, how to treat pain and injury without opiates and when to use opiates was extremely informative. Casey’s Law discussion by a leading lawyer was very stimulating.
The Psychiatrist break out for me is always the best.  We share about the mix of work and recovery and family and recreation.  It was great to see Charles and Darryl again. Something about their sense of humour just appeals to me.
The CME has been great too.  Virtual Recovery, a great review digital research advances in apps for the phone to help predict and prevent relapse.
Penny, another psychiatrist, is the new executive director, She presented on Contemporary Music and Addiction, pointing out the promotion of heroin in the new rap, pop and metal songs of today. She celebrated the progress in the industry too.
By contrast the presentation on Primary Prevention , with the Other Side movies and programs made for high schools was so promising,. 
It’s been two days and there’s two more to go.  I’ve just had a swim and plan to head over to the nearby Market area of Knoxville. I ‘ve already walked around it in a break ,enjoying historic and funky ambience.
It‘s just been 2 days. There are two more to come.  I love IDAA.  I’ve signed up for next year’s Spokane IDAA 2020. The people here are the most fantastic.  I learn more CME in the hallways and discussing cases over coffee,  I still enjoy all the meetings. I always order audio tapes and spend the rest of the year listening to the conference again while driving my truck in the country.  
Thank you all.  Again you’ve restore my faith in my fellow men and women , in medicine and psychiatry and help me appreciate my own small contribution.  





























Sunday, June 16, 2019

35 yo Comox Campbell River Courtenay

I’ve been hard on administrators and bureaucrats. It’s obviously not totally fair. There was a time when they were lowly paid and highly honorable. In recent years their union has caused them to be paid the highest in the land. Unfortunately their training and competence have not increased.

My father didn’t respect Unions.  He felt they served the workers well and believed in the need for this given the history of management. No one with Scottish Irish roots can trust overlords.  I remind people that the English were more than willing to tax the Scots and Irish to death by demanding all their potatoes each harvest without consideration of how the subjugated people would survive.  The phrase ‘hide the potatoes’ followed because people who were highly cooperative eventually overthrew their masters because they simply had to have potatoes.

Now in Campbell River there was a terrific hospital administrator.  There were wonderful doctors on the north island in general too. The Campbell River Hospital wanted a day hospital for the psychiatric patients in their regions and north of them.  The psychiatrist in Comox along with that administration had made Comox the ‘regional psychiatric hospital’ so was intent on getting all the resources.  The Comox psychiatrist was in league with the local NDP politician. They had some nefarious arrangement.  Lots of backrooms in politics. Lots of glad hands and slippery hands.  All about dominance and control and not about what was needed most in the communities. Campbell River was a boom town and simply need psychiatric services the most. 

In Campbell River to get a Day Hospital, they needed a psychiatrist. This terrific administrator with a group of dedicated doctors and wonderful townspeople truly caring for the needs of the community askedme , when I made the mistake of not moving there full time, if I would come up a couple of days a week so they get the Day Hospital. I loved meeting with these people and working with this great administrator to bring the resources and people to bear to get the Campbell River Psychiatric Day Hospital.  It was such a totally different atmosphere than the Byzantine cloak and dagger administration my colleague had working in Comox. Everyone in Campbell River was transparent and concerned not looking for power or a personal kick back for themselves. It all went well and we got the day hospital with the help of Victoria administrators who acknowledged the need for the psychiatric patients in the day hospital.

I loved Campbell River. I loved the doctors there. I loved the youth and vitality in the town .I loved the fishing and hunting and logging.

I’d be hunting one day in the fall.  An older gentleman was sitting on the side of the road.  I stopped. He immediately asked me what I was looking for, “a deer of course.”  

‘What are you looking for?”  

“A doctor.”

“I’m a doctor, “ I said.

“Well I’ve got a deer. I may have had a heart attack trying to pull two out. They must have been twins.  One stood up and I shot it. Then it stood up again and I shot it again.  When I got to where I shot them I had two identical deer.   I pulled the first one out but when I began pulling the second out I had chest pain.  If you’d pull them out for me I’d gladly give you one.’

That’s how a friendship of 25 years began. I checked him over and concluded he may well have had a mild MI.  He was over it now.  I had him rest and went where he pointed. Sure enough there was a two point deer at the base of the hill. I pulled that out to the road and left it with him.  Then I climbed up the hill and found an identical two point deer. What was amazing was that both gunshot wounds were indentically placed in the heart. incredible shooting. That’s what I’d learn too. My new friend, Bill Mewhort, was an incredible marksman. 

I got the deer down and got his truck round and loaded one deer on his truck and the other on my truck then followed him back to Campbell River where I unloaded his deer and made sure he went to the hospital. I left him there. Sure enough he’d had a minor MI.  It wouldn’t bother him again.  But it began this great friendship . AFter my father and brother Bill became the man who taught me the most about hunting and fishing. He’d once been a guide and now worked in the mill.

I’d be working 5 to 6 days a week with a 20 bed hospital ward and a full private practice I shared with my colleague.  The longer I knew him the more I knew that everything he did was purely self serving. He’d pressured me to stay in Comox over Campbell River because he rented me my office. Always about the money.  Always about control and manipulation.  He actually ‘gas lighted’ people. I’d learn from the other specialists who I got along with that whenever anyone had a problem with him in town a week later they’d get a call from the College saying there was a report that they’d might be doing cocaine. Several of  the specialists concluded that the person making the false allegations was this psychiatrist.  None of them were doing cocaine but a person who could manipulate ‘gossip’ in a small town was a powerful person. Meanwhile whenever his wife was out of town there was a loose woman coming to see him late at night in the office after he’d dismissed his secretary. I’d come to pick up files from the office and be surprised that he was always seeing some pretty older woman alone at late hours.  There were several of these women.  His wife was away a lot.  A very cold arrangement.  Very peculiar behaviour. Lots of nastiness. I’d quickly learned he was a ‘backstabber’ of the first order. Highly duplicitous, saying one thing to me and another thing to staff and directors.  

When I first came on the ward I admitted an anorexic girl. A very pretty teenager.  I came back to the ward an hour later and suddenly found a literal party going on. My colleague was to be away for a week and he’d left the ward full of all these apparently healthy young and middle aged men who were suddenly very frisky with the arrival of the girl.  I was instantly suspicious about the diagnosis and treatment, reviewed the half dozen men and found they were not ‘depressed’ but rather all malingerers and drunks. I changed the diagnosis from Bipolar II to alcoholism on all of them. I saw no drug and alcohol histories were being taken by my colleagues.  The men were at first quite  the braggarts about their drinking and drugging. No wonder they were depressed. They were all hung over and had all been on a bender.

Now there was 20 bed alcohol detox and drug treatment in town. I visitted it. It was empty.  All the drunks and drug addicts were being admitted to the psychiatry hospital. That changed then. Those 6 guys ended up in the detox. Another  fifty followed along with them after I corrected all the diagnosis.   Overnight the ward changed from a belligerent entitled hang over ward to a regular psychiatry ward. Simply taking a proper history disclosed the long standing problems.  The town had a lot of drunks and addicts working in the mills and logging industry.  My colleague had been ‘enabling’.  

What was even more interesting is that the “designated addiction gp’ (no official training, just took the job for the money and status) became angry at me because he suddenly had a full unit and it remained that way. 

“All I can do now is take care of drunks.”

“That’s what your detox unit is” I said. 

“But it’s never had patients before. I had a great thing going here till you came.’’ He actually laughed. 

He’d actually be pissed for a while then he really got on board and the detox and treatment unit began to function the way it should.

A number of older women with depression and a group of parents whose children had schizophrenia approached me thanking me for what I’d done.

“I was afraid to be admitted to the psychiatry unit because of all those bad men.....I’d be suicidal at home rather than come to the hospital. “

“We couldn’t see our daughters and sons admitted there because it was always the drunks and the drug dealers living there.’

The head nurse was figuratively in bed with my colleague but a number of other nurses told me  how  the ward had been functioning at. I couldn’t have been there more than a month or two before the amazing public health nurse approached me and thanked me for sorting out he psychiatric unit because she now had a place to send psychiatry patients.

The joke was always ,”You don’t have an alcohol problem if you’re not drinking more than your doctor.’  

The psychiatrist called himself a ‘wine connosieur.’. I was happy to drink and smoke dope but it never changed my diagnostic acumen. 

He’d been a social worker before becoming a psychiatrist.

I’d meet other psychiatrists who had worked in Comox and got a whole lot of ‘skinny’ on the man.  One psychiatrist, a marvellous old scotch drinking English fellow said, “Couldn’t stand the fool. Loved to read the latest counselling book and talk like an authority but didn’t seem to know any medicine and less psychiatry.  Prancing about with his NDP politician friends.  Called me a drunk because I liked a scotch but I never saw him without a bottle of wine.”   This fellow was a Liberal and had left the community for the city in the south. .

“I left because it was clear he was going to kill someone and try to blame it on me. Always looking over my back when I worked there.” Another fellow told me. “ When I came there , there were a half dozen of us but one after another he ran us out of the town.  The worst was the child psychiatrist. Born there. Wanted to work there because his family was there. Top doctor. But smart. Met with us and took the measure of him and came to work in Victoria instead.  Truly great psychiatrist. That happened over and over. Watch your back. Greatest area but odd town.  Courtenay is like any other rural community. Lots of the farmers and long standing people that lived there for generations. Then there’s that other places with more pubs than churches. Comox meanwhile has been the place where the Ottawa bureaurcrats who did as they were told retire and now suddenly believe they can think for themselves. They can’t but the politics is crazy. The military base is there and those folk often retire. Nothing wrong with them. And lots of leaders in the resource community. But this guy is in with the NDP and frankly they’re mostly communists.  I’m a Liberal myself. Part of the reason I left.  Too much politics and in breeding and this social worker flunky trying to stir up trouble anyway he could. Watch your back. He’s a liar.”

I’d become the Vice President of Psychiatrists of the British Columbia Medical Association on the Island and really enjoyed meeting with my colleagues once a month in Victoria.  I’d take the time to drive down for my sanity.  They were truly an amazing group of the finest psychiatrists. They had a monthly dinner but the real treat was talking with them after the meetings and just getting together with some of the wisest and finest physicians and psychiatrists I’d ever know.  Many of them had worked the north Isldand before coming south. There was a nother great group of psychiatrists working in Nanaimo who I came to really admire and enjoy.  

I was staying in the Anglican Church manse which I rents. . A few months later I’d have my windows shot out. 22 rifle. Someone plunking at the windows from across the street.  Beer bottles would routinely be smashed at my door. 

My gorgeous nurse girlfriend came up to visit and she was stunning. She still was considering joining me yet her car window was broken and beer cans piled inside. She was afraid and didn’t like what I told her.  Of course she wanted me to come back to Vancouver.

I had bought a Ford Broncho II and began my love affair with hiking and camping in the woods Emily Carr made famous. Every weekend off I was out in the woods. I got a dog too. Life was good. Work was scarey. I kept diagnosing alcoholism and kept having threats. Guys would phone me at night and threatened to kill me, say how they’d had me in their sights and tell me where I’d been camping.  

I had a Browning 30:06 and a 22 rifle and added a smooth Bore Defender shot gun. I slept with that. I’d also begun to collect poisonous plants and dry them and keep them in jars in the basement. I loved botany.  

I met an old farmer and he had a freezer full of marijauna. He gave me a couple of pounds of his throw away.  I began smoking pot and drinking red wine at night, writing. I had cats too.  I lived behind a grave yard and walked the dog there at night. It was a peculiar existence.

The first girl I went out was a a cowgirl country western singer. I’d been asked to speak on the television doing a half hour on eating disorders and then on fashion and women and how fashion hurts women. I’d been asked to be the speaker at a dinner for the ecumenical churches function and enjoyed the people. I was going to each different church rotating through them. I made a great alliance with a nun who also did counseling.  The cowgirl would turn out to be a story I wrote about because it was so country strange. 

I’d refer patients to the local counsellors and this worked well except a few of them were crazier than the patients I referred. One man came back to me for his antidepressant medication and asked if he had to continues to see the counsellors.  I asked him what was the problem.

“I don’t like stripped naked with him and the two of flailing each other with whips. It makes me more depressed.” 

I contacted this local powerful famous counsellors and discretely asked him about his ‘techniques’.  He alluded to this therapy and confirmed for me that my patient wasn’t psychotic though the counsellor might be. I didn’t refer any more patients to him.

The other bizarre seriously deranged counsellor was a friend of the psychiatrist and claimed every child she saw had been sexually abused. I’d end in court repeatedly over turning these weird diagnosis because her basis of this conclusion was  always esxtraordinary . The one that sticks out was the report. “The child played with the slinky toy in such a way as to be certain she’d been sexually abused by her father.”  

I’d learn there was a dirty industry going on in the town. Victim’s compensation would pay for counsellors to see women and children but only if they had been sexually abused. So this major conflict of interest drove this incompetent ladies diagnosis. Unfortunately being pretty and a friend of my colleagues it had worked well I came along and ruined the busiensss by repeatedless saying I found no evidence for sexual abuse. By property examining the children and parents I’d changed a least a hundred of this diagnosis and make a arch enemy of this counsellor. 

My friend Marion, an actual PHD psychologist was delighted because she’d seen these politically and financially motivated diagnosis occurring to the detriment of children and families.  Further my friend Anne was the social worker and truly delighted that someone finally stopped this particular counsellor whose family unfortunately had money and were prominent in the local NDP.

Anne , a regular Anne Margaret/ Audrey Hepburn social worker and Marion , the local Joni Mitchel. Judy Collins psychologist were working in mental health north island, had invited me out for lunch shortly after my arrival.   I was blessed to meet two of the brightest most extraordinary women and therapists who’d become my life long friends.  

My friend from university who’d married a biker drug dealer and paid lawyers hundreds of thousands to keep him out of jail when he was caught was also working on the island in the south. I told her husband about my windows being shot out and how great the hunting was . This lead to a half dozen guys arriving one night on Harley’s engine rumbling, driving around the town,  each carrying a rifle either in a scabbard or across the Bars. Another guy brought up a truck. We’d use my Broncho II and the truck to head out into the woods the next morning. The guys got a couple of deer.

More importantly I slept fitfully for the first time in months.  Surrounded by friends with guns, thankful they’d made a circle of the town and now I had a half dozen Harley’s in front of the church manse, I felt ‘safe’.  Never again would there be beer bottles smashed on my doorsteps and no longer would people plunk at my windows with a 22 rifle. 

Thanks to Bill I had a deer to share. I’d butchered it my self and began my life long love of cooking wild meat.  The guys loved the barbecued steaks.  
I was really enjoying northern and rural medicine. 

My nurse broke it off and I continued to love the country.  I loved my time in Campbell River and enjoyed my private practice but the hospital was just politics and trouble. Whenever I went away I found my colleague changed my orders. He was a classic ‘passive aggressive’ little shit and was constantly politicking.  Constantly smiling to your face.  

Meanwhile I was playing a lot of guitar.My budgies were killed by the cat.  My first dog, a rescue dog, a runner, escaped and was hit by a car running across the busy highway. HE died in my arms.

Shinto came into my life after that.  Shinto. Oh now I remember. I was told there was a puppy and I went out to Quadra Island to meet him.  Cross Irish Setter and Springer Spaniel. My secretary was a dog trainer and when I told her I was looking for a dog she was kind enough to put out feelers. My dad’s dogs had been springers and my brother’s setters.  Shinto was adorable.  I named him Shinto for the spiritual essence that Japanese believe pervades life.  I miss him this day.  What a wonderful dog he was.  The best companion and a great hunting dog. He went with me everywhere though he stayed at home when I went to work.  Life is great when a guy has a dog for a companion.

The doctors in Comox and Campbell River just continued to show themselves as really good clinicians and fine people.  I had the best referrals from them but my popularity made my colleague even more jealous.   A husband and wife team of GP’s were the best.  There was a brilliant Intensive Care internist. I’d shoot skeet with the specialists at the local gun club I’d join.   I was kayaking too so all my activities put me in contact with other doctors and showed that I was a real part of the rural northern community. By constraint my colleague did nothing in the community but drink wine and conspire with his NDP friend and see pretty single women patients late at night in his office.  

When winter came I’d begin down hill skiing at the near by slope. A great lodge and great fun.  Comox Campbell River is truly one of the most beautiful places in the world.  I’d date these amazing women there too. One nurse will forever remain in my heart. I just wasn’t mature enough to be the husband she deserved. I loved the local pharmacist, an elegant lady of a girl with exquisite sophisticated tastes.  Much too good for me. I was a bad boy and did’t see any real future. I wasn’t sure if I’d settle down.

I liked that the heads of the logging companies of Vancouver Island independently and collectively approached me and thanked me for what I’d done with getting the alcoholics in treatment.

“As along as your colleague called them Bipolar and refused to diagnose them as alcoholic , neither the union or management could do anything. There were a dozen of the worst and they caused us all a whole lot of grief. After you came the accident free days in North Vancouver  Island sky rocketed. Never underestimate what you’re doing. You’re really appreciated.”  That kind of praise certainly made me feel good. 

The word had really got around and my colleague felt threatened and hated me .  Repeatedly men and women I’d meet in church or at the hunting club would tell me “Thank you for what you did. I worried every day my husband went to work. It’s a dangerous enough job but with drunks running cranes and driving the big trucks it was a nightmare.  Now he says the place is sane and the bad boys have all gone off for drug and alcohol treatment.”

Nobody worried much about marijuana. It was a principle industry and it didn’t cause the problems that alcohol and cocaine caused in the workplace.  

“I was terrified working but you got the crane operator in treatment. I thought those guys were going to kill you. They all talked about killing you.”

My friend in the mill told me I’d been targeted.  

Yet 6 months later all these guy were either sober and attending AA or had been fired and left the community. Since my biker friends had driven through the town with guns no one had bothered me again.  

The beauty of industry is once there’s a diagnosis they really work with the union to keep you working but sober not drunk.  Apparently my little ‘community medicine’ intervention had it’s pay off. The public health nurse assured me I’d made a lot of difference in a very short period of time. “But that’s because you care about medicine and the town. I  guess you know your colleague is a different sort.”  It would later come out that his family had some criminal tendencies with his lying and the family lying issues actually getting front page. I thought it explained his friendship with the snake politicians.  But then that was a problem with the community all these eastern bureaucrats wheeling and dealing.

The drug abuse and adolescent crime were an issue so I tried to get a skate board area for the kids. I was working with the police and public health and damned if the town council wasn’t a group of these recycled Ottawa sorts.  Painful to talk with them.  Every excuse and fear mongering and underhanded tactic known to a politician.  Meanwhile the kids literally had nothing to do and nowhere to hang out.  

It’s amazing what I remember. Every day I ‘m seeing dozens of patients and doing all this regular medicine. Highlights are just that. Things that stick out. They’re unusual. We simply remember the greats and the ugly.  

I’d been having these fabulous visits with Marion in Parksville, her family, young kids and noise and dogs and just all round country living a blessing. I’d be driving through the most beautiful forest in the world to do out reach psychiatry with a great old English doctor with an amazing moustache. I’d see these unusual cases only found in the wilderness and at the end of the earth.  Vancouver Island was just that sort of place. People moved all across CAnada and crazy smacked up against the ocean, having no place further to escape so stayed on the west coast. 

There was a town of in bred folk left over from a commune at the turn of the century.I spotted  the too close eyes and low slung ears, something twigged me in my pattern recognition so I  asked around and explored the history. Sure enough fifty  years previously this bit of today’s paradise had be the place of Deliverance.  A crazy American had come north with his flock.  His commune died but some of the incest survivors stayed to live in this area. Another hippy commune continued to function. 

We had a lot  of hermits and villages that worked on barter and lived off the grid. I’d meet the finest people from the islands.

I’d love this genius who lived on an island I won’t name.  I’d got in with a group of ‘survivalists’ and met this truly extraordinary guy and his lovely wife one night. A folksinger or poet introduced us. He was in a cabin on the island raising small kids but had a computer and communications array that NASA would envy. Did a couple of PHD”s in engineering and computers before heading off the grid. Whenever I had problems with my computer I’d call him up, only a couple of times, he was not someone I’d want to lose as a friend. He’d take the whole thing over through the phone before this was being done and solve my ‘glych’ and go off the grid again.  He knew my friend in CSIS. They are a really tight circle.  

I was having increasing problems on the ward. I’d had a violent young borderline admitted and left specific orders that no one was to go into her room alone and that security should always be on hand with her for her sake. . She was a tiny waif of a thing but totally paranoid and incredibly sneaky. Turn your back and she hit you. You had  to count all the cutlery and not even leave plastic with her. She responded well to medication but it took time. It was awful. There were some nurses who were less than stirling and they used this poor thing to get time off. She was so weak she couldn’t hurt anyone but within a week a half dozen of the less that stirling nurses, drinking friends of the other pscyhiatrist and the head nurse were off on extended leave for being ‘hurt’ in the workplace. They ‘milked’ weeks. The tragedy is this little girl then had to be moved to the ‘state asylum’.  She’d be there a year. She got the reputation of being violent. I’d meet up with the poor thing year later, a not atypical story of the abuse that schizophrenic encounter. . 

I hated those nurses. 

There was one bully past her shelf life, quite the dog in her 40’s and I admitted this hermit farmer from up island.He was depressed and suicidal but came with a million dollars in big denominations in paper bags. He’d been storing them under his bed and knew he needed to come to hospital and was afraid it would be stolen.I admitted this guy with these shopping bags full of hundred dollar bills. Apparently this was his ‘cash’ and that he had much more in land and banks.

He was almost melancholic.  That night this ugly cunt climbed into his bed.  Days later he was better. A week later he was married. I objected vociferously when I heard he’d been literally sexually assaulted by a nurse in the hospital. The nurses coulnd’t understand or accept my reaction to this obvious gold digger. Apparently a couple of the nurses were upset that the bitch had beat them to it.

When I raised the issue with the head of the hospital she being catholic thought there was no problem. Marriage made everything right. The nurse was catholic.  My dirty minded colleague thought I was being ridiculous and that a wife would either cure him or give him something to be depressed about. He was obvious depressed with his marriage and simply lacked ethics and morality.  A difficult man to work with.

A very blizarre psychiatry unit. 

I’ve always regretted I didn’t go to Campbell River where I’d have come under the influence of the great doctor in AA but then I’d not have had the equally joyful time of meeting the incredible nurses, pharmacists, gps, specialists, and psychologists and other people I had the joy to work with. Always the good people outnumbered the bad 10 to one but evil flourishes because no one dares confront it.  Never my problem always my curse. 

 The head of the local mental health was said by his staff to be sleeping with young women. There were several police and politicians involved in the drug trade and all manner of nefarious real estate and construction being done for cash. British Columbia did billions of dollars in the illegal marijuania industry and I was near it’s epicentre. 

 I was really out of my depth. I even befriended a hell’s angel that year becuse the courts were denying him access to his son.  Angel Acres , the major Hell’s angel gathering place was in Parksille an hour south of Comox. My patient  was a criminal but a good dad and a good guy. We fished and hunted together one weekend when a non patch wearing mutual friend introduced us.  He had more ethical and moral development on a personal level than my colleague.  He was a part of a wolf pack though and his wife an ex prostitute heroin addicted  was ruining his son.  So there I was in court defending him as a father. I’d do a lot of that. But I’d also liked the local judge who was amazingly apolitical and a great man. We’d have coffee together and get to know each other and talk about the town.  I have been truly blessed to meet the finest judges with rare exception. This guy rode a Harley too which enamoured him to me. 

He told me 

“The problem with the child custody in the north was all the guys were away in camps. The women didn’t have anything to do.They longed to be in the big city. So they’d dump the guy and take their kids to the city. The guy would have to pay child support but could never make the same amount of money in the south that he madein the north. He was literally stuck here and she was being a party girl down in the city.  When ever these cases came before  me 200 women from the community would be mustered to sit in the court intimidating me and the guys were always stuck in the camps because her lawyers always knew how to play the systems. The women have a better family law school among themselves than any offered by a university.  It’s awful but I can’t really do anything. When you give me a report saying the guys sane it helps but the system is flawed. Eventually it will change. The law gets it right but there’s always a delay and right now the children and family are suffering.”

I loved North Vancouver Island. I am pleased today that there are a half dozen or more psychiatrists up there. The people were great and deserved good medical care and not to have a little shit making a fiefdom for himself.  I am thankful to say that while I didn’t stay, though I’d return, his ‘monopoly’ was broken and his lies exposed. I’d learn later that the College Registrar was thankful for what he called ‘Dr. Hay’s reconnaissance.”  It didn’t help me. I returned to the city probably even more paranoid. But I had a collection of great memories, great friends and would be blessed for life by the experience and friends I made.  

Last I heard the other psychiatrist was dead.  The NDP was replaced by either the Liberals or Green.  Life moved on.  

I really loved the nun chaplain and did great grief work with her. A military major introduced me to the amazing knife maker on Quadra Island. I still have the knife he made for me and have butchered many moose and deer with that superb blade. The natives introduced me to the extraordinary native museum there. While I’d studied anthropology of the aboriginals and continued to read, it was here that I’d begin to learn a lot about the Kwakiutl and Haida. All the time I’d be visiting with Bill and his family. His son was a great boy who became a great man.His daughter was a beautiful school teacher who’d I’d gladly of dated but I knew by then her father was the most amazing long distance rifle shooter.

A martial artist had come to the mill and Bill told me he was bothering the other men always bragging about how he could kill people with his hands or  a kick,  Bill said he his  black belt. Bill said “because it was ruining the lunch room atmosphere I had to lean over and tell the guy, “you’d better tone it down. I can hit a silver dollar at a mile with my rifle but there’s several other younger guys here who are better shots than me and they can hit a dime at a mile. So I’d quiet down about what you can do with your martial arts up close. You’d never reach these other guys who aren’t as old and civilized as I am.”