Rape, drugs, consent and lawyer chaperones.

I think the Oscars occurred. There’s news on Facebook of a Lady Gaga song about rape on campus. I’m sure it’s moving. It’s just that I remember the ‘stats’ for a few years back that said that ‘rape was least likely to occur on campus’ .  The book was addressing the ‘privileged rich girls’ concerned about themselves when often a mile from campus was a poor neighbourhood where rape was common.  This was addressing the question of more lights on campus when there were thought to be better places to put the money, i.e. more lights in a nearby black ghetto.  Now the figure ‘1 in 5’ girls will be raped in college years comes up but the question I remember was whether this was ‘on campus’.  Clearly rape is a crime against the young.  But what are 4 in 5 doing differently.  Further the ‘stats’ have been muddied by ‘date rape’.  The former stats were about ‘violent rape’ , ‘gang rape’ and now ‘date rape’ is this ‘grey area’.
Historically consent was a physical statement.  A woman ‘consented’ to sex by her behaviour.  Now the rich judges say that ‘consent’ is a legal document drawn up and signed before sexual congress. Indeed all manner of perverse behaviour is permissible if a lawyer agrees. That’s the message of 50 shades of grey.
So increasingly we’re seeing the increase of state power through courts in the bedrooms of the nation.  Further, we see more ‘make work’ for lawyers.  Men simply must not ‘date’ women without the woman offering a ‘date agreement’.  This is acceptable for the rich but the poor are the ones who are going to be dinged by this.  Only the poor can’t afford a lawyer for a date.  Only the poor and stupid will be without the properly notarized ‘consent’ document.
I’ve had ‘unwanted’ sex.  There used to be a difference between ‘unwanted’ sex and ‘rape’ .  But the expansion of this definition expands the police/legal state’.
Today I teach people to be ‘assertive’ and find that very few know the difference between ‘assertive’ and ‘aggressive’.  Today I teach ‘consent’ and few women are ready to ‘admit desire’.  Indeed studies show that women are ‘turned down’ 1 in 10 to 1 in 100 times for men when it comes to dating.  The fact is that men simply can’t take the risk to their lives and their careers of dating in these violent times.  The tragedy is that as the courts profit the cultural shift is to Moslem ‘behavioural consent’ laws.  A woman not wearing a burga in public is available for sex.
My older female friend said ‘when I wear 4 inch heels I’m not planning on walking. They’re my ‘fuck me’ shoes’.   But that’s no longer the case.  The ’SLUT WALK” closed the door on behaviour as consent.  So that means no man is safe in college from ‘false accusation’ without ‘written lawyer notarized’ consent. We know statistically that the range of ‘false accusation’ is at least 1 in 10 and ranges upwards from that.
Frankly I can’t recommend men attend mixed colleges and universities  and believe that military schools are the only ‘safe’ place for men today.
Clearly women would do well to go to female only colleges and universities until they are past the age of risk for rape.  There is a need further for ‘cloister living ‘ to return and definitely our society can learn major lessons from the Moslem society where apparently ‘rape’ is not the widespread disease it is in Canada and America.  Multiculturalism may well be what has failed since given the ‘history’ of ‘behavioural consent’ there are clearly ‘mixed messages’.
This can all be stopped by everyone having a lawyer chaperone at all times or by separation of sexes, new behaviour and consent agreements, and generally a recognition that both children , male and female, must be protected from this epidemic.
Personally I think it’s alcohol and drugs and would focus the financial attention on removing alcohol from university and college related activities rather than adding more lights.  I’d also do drug testing of those involved like we would with accident reporting, testing the accused and the accuser.  The reason for this is simply that drugs cause ‘psychosis’ and ‘memory’ loss as well as ‘violent behaviour’.  Rather than locking up a ‘date rapist’ if he is drinking or using drugs, repeat behaviour can be expected if he is drinking or using drugs, therefore the right treatment is drug and alcohol treatment and prohibition for the individual.
I really don’t think boys and girls go to university with the intention of being the rapist or to be raped so clearly there’s more involved than lighting and ‘good girl victims’ and ‘bad man victimizer’s and ‘rape culture hysteria’.  I’ve mentioned just a few of the changes that need to be made.
The best is removal of drugs and alcohol because statistically rape is more associated with drugs and alcohol than any other variable.

Bellingham, Washington, USA

I love Bellingham. I’ve been driving down for decades.  I pass through it on the way from Vancouver to Seattle and often just go to Bellingham itself.  A great destination on the Harley motorcycle.  This weekend we’ve been in my black Miata MX5 2 seater sportscar.
I just love crossing the border and being in a different country. I’m on call 24/7 and though it’s mostly only urgent  calls I can handle over the phone, it’s still only when I’m out of British Columbia I truly relax.  When Laura and I were in Dublin I received a call at 3 in the morning wanting me to come in person to an emergency.  I loved being able to say I wasn’t able to as I was in Dublin.  I knew that everyone would be able to handle the matter without me anyway.
This trip was a compromise.  Given the Canadian dollar was only 70 cents I decided against going to Seattle arguing that just crossing the border and spending a couple of nights in Bellingham would be a saving.  The fact is, it’s far easier to spend Canadian money in Seattle.  Just the cost of hotel’s in Bellingham is a third less.
Best Western Plus is where we’ve stayed before. It’s by Bellis Fair.  Nice dog friendly 3 star hotel. I like Best Westerns. I’ve stayed in them all over the world and have never been disappointed. Maybe they’re a bit more than a Super 8 which is also dog friendly but I like the extras.  This one had a hot tub and the Best Western breakfast, neither of which we used, but we could have. The dog walk along the stream though is perfect.  It was right outside our door and Gilbert and I and Gilbert and Laura enjoyed many strolls there.
Laura loved the room.  She’s a regular Howard Hughes when it comes to hotels and hotel baths and the daily cleaning service.  After checking in, I left Laura and Gilbert in the deluxe room, going off to get myself a hair cut.  With only a half hour delay at Peace Arch border crossing,  it had been a lovely drive down to Bellingham.
I was going to get Laura some perfume for early Valentine’s Day but she decided on shoes and a purse in the designer discount store, Marshalls.  Later we found out her retro purse is a Steve Madden, the male equivalent of Martha Stewart.  A couple of white collar jailbirds caught for money frauds.  
I'd emailed ahead to St. Paul’s Presbyterian to find out if they accepted Gilbert the therapy dog in church. I told them he’d been blessed by the Bishop in Vancouver and was a member at St. James Anglican.  But no. Dogs were not welcome.  So in keeping with my belief that I’ll not go to heaven  if they don’t accept dogs, I felt I’d done my bit.  I’d tried.  God knew.
There are ‘dog friendly’ hotel listings but so far the churches haven’t caught on.  So Laura, Gilbert and I went to the park along the Bay.  There’s a crane sanctuary and a wondrous off lease run.  Gilbert, whose back has been healing since last fall, got to run free. I’ve literally restrained his motion only allowing him off leash for short walks.  Today I wanted to see how well he was recovering.  It was a blessed sight to see. He ran and jumped just like he does with his  cockapoo cousin Eva.  He may still have trouble climbing still he’s a regular rocket again on the flat.  He also played with a big dog and a little bossy Yorkie. That was worth the trip, to see Gilbert running and playing. Slept on the King sized bed with us.
One night we had pizza and caesar salads and read books in the room.  Another night  I went out and got us  Macdonald’s Burgers and Fries. It’s Gilbert’s favourite and he deserved a reward. So Laura and I and Gilbert ate together on the king sized bed watching Tom Select in Blue Bloods on the big screen tv.
We’ d planned to stop at the Harley store but they were closed so we’re now heading back leisurely.  We’re at the Macdonald’s having egg mcmuffins.  Laura’s checking her Facebook and I’m uploading photos we took while here.
The US primaries continue.  The Muslim migrants remain news with eerie denial by leftist politicians about their potential for terrorist acts feeding the conspiracy theorists.  Meanwhile the war with ISIS continues.    The Super Bowl has dominated the weekend with Lady Gaga’s outstanding performance of the American Anthem.
We’ve enjoyed being here this family day long weekend. I like America and Americans

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